Originally Posted by
KanRen
Talk about a significant event from your life.
Ugh. I enjoy my life very much. But I do not really have anything 'significant' or noteworthy. I also find this question too general to answer properly. I'd be happy to answer specifics.
What do you do if you're not getting what you want? What approach do you use?
Well if it is an item, normally I will try to buy it from the individual or a store. If someone took something from me/ripped me off, it depends on the situation. For me it is a cost-benefit analysis, if the reason is worth fighting for- then I will use aggression, intimidation, and physical force if necessary. This would only occur if someone attacks me, or offends my close-ones. I am very aggressive and confrontational in defending others that I trust, more so then myself. This aspect is important to me because I feel responsible for my trustees and its a form of honor and dignity for myself. Trustees only include very close friends, SO, and family. I do not like to be responsible for other people. It is not my right to intervene in other peoples' affairs if I am not fully knowledgeable of the situation.
Very rarely do I fight for materialistic purposes, I would rather just walk away and move on. Although I am not a push-over. If someone is clearly being disrespectful towards me, then I have no problem verbalizing it. Example: Today, I was waiting in line for a vending machine. I was next. Then, a guy who is likely a friend of the stranger in front of me tried to cut before me. I immediately recognized and reacted by forcefully moving forward and said, "I am next." They both said something in Spanish, and I ignored them, acquired my snack, and left without responding to them. Yes, they definitely cursed me out but I chose not to react or develop the situation because I got what I want and left. There is not benefit for me to cause confrontation.
If it is something I want from from someone I am close to, I will either persistently ask (emotional persuasion) or try to bargain (logical persuasion). Additionally, my opinion of them will be significantly effected if they are not willing to accommodate me. Although, I rarely want something from others.