i've had a few guys be obsessed with me before too, in the past, but luckily they weren't abusive types. at the time, i didn't think i was leading them on, but they thought they had a chance, apparently. i know it's hard for me to outright do something i know is going to hurt another's feelings; i think IEIs (especially women) generally try to be nice and friendly with everyone. so this combination of IEIs being alluring and mysterious, while also trying to maintain platonic relationships with someone who is attracted can be kind of dangerous. i know in those previous cases i genuinely appreciated those guys' friendships, but it just ruins things when one has unrequited feelings for the other
