i have a Beta NF friend a bit younger than i am (types herself ENFJ/INFJ in MBTI) who in the past has attracted several abusers and shitty guys (including a stalker, a molester, and a few narcissists). she's early-20s young, very pretty, delicate-looking, and "helpless" seeming so i think bad characters get attracted, thinking they can easily possess, control and abuse her. she's very good, whether deliberately or not, at hooking guys in the way Starfall mentioned, so she's also attracted a lot of younger guys (not necessarily abusive) who thought they had a chance (most didn't), and easily became obsessed. when they found out that she wasn't going to reciprocate their feelings, many of these guys' behavior got really ugly, i.e. they pretty much hate her now and write her off as "crazy". in many cases, she regrets losing their friendships, and it hurts her to know what they think about her now. i don't think her behavior was malicious at all, but i think she may be starting to realize that trying to be "only friends" with guys she knows are crazy for her is a bad idea.

i've had a few guys be obsessed with me before too, in the past, but luckily they weren't abusive types. at the time, i didn't think i was leading them on, but they thought they had a chance, apparently. i know it's hard for me to outright do something i know is going to hurt another's feelings; i think IEIs (especially women) generally try to be nice and friendly with everyone. so this combination of IEIs being alluring and mysterious, while also trying to maintain platonic relationships with someone who is attracted can be kind of dangerous. i know in those previous cases i genuinely appreciated those guys' friendships, but it just ruins things when one has unrequited feelings for the other