I am definitely LIE. I am definitely not SLE, because I can actually plan things more than 30 seconds into the future. What I have with IEI's is the attraction between an 8 and a 4. A lot of SLE's are also 8's.
Why do I like IEI's? As I've said before, my mother did not love me (or my sisters), but my IEI aunt did. So, the emotional part of my brain locked onto her type. I am a wolf raised by skylarks. Most wolves think skylarks make good snacks, and that's their best use, but I think otherwise.
That doesn't mean that I always get along well with IEI's, or they with me. There are some rough spots. Yes, there is some frustration over some "petty behavior" of theirs sometimes. For example, the one I've been seeing told me to take a hike today, because I am "just like the ISFj" who just quit her employ for a better job. According to the IEI, the ISFj and I are just alike. And because IEI's do not like to be the ones who are left in a relationship, they want to be the ones doing the leaving, she is probably doing a preemptive strike. Or testing me, I don't know. She's obviously upset (the ISFj was her best employee) and is running scared on Fe, not Te. Their brains are Ni possibility generators (including catastrophes) and their ability to see the real world (Se) to do fact checking on these possibilities is not spectacular. They can be so sensitive to being called on their whimsey and illogic, and it is hard for me to suppress my Te and Fi and walk her through a rational argument that says, "Just because your best employee quit does not mean that everyone is leaving you."
So, yes, there are some problems. But overall, my emotional brain thinks they are a save haven. My rational brain keeps saying that we are not a long-term comfortable match, but emotions usually rule, you know.



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