Quote Originally Posted by Scientist View Post
That was my initial intention, but he has been seeking for that place for six years, waisting his precious health every minute and repeating that he needs more time to mentally prepare himself. I shouldn't be a passive observer any longer.
It's better to ask for forgiveness vs permission. You should force the situation with his ex, mom, whatever. If it's been six years, it's not possible to simply sit back and watch. Also I would say that there maybe a codependency thing going on here where he is using this issue as a mechanism of control. It might be better to give a very firm response, and then get your self distance and watch what happens with the family.