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    Fictional example: Amy Elliott Dunne - Gone Girl

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kLnxf-giIsw
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aF66VW8KrTc
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KCLpO26zGsY***

    ‚the perfectionist‘

    - list writing, research, everything is in place (2:58) etc.
    - but at the core it’s not about the superficial perfectionism, being orderly, neat etc.
    - the obsessive bent here is important, compulsive - she can't help being like that
    - that means that it's a constant quality about her, sth, ingrained in her, how she really is
    - her true colours that emerged during the marriage, not the various images she can project
    - how she works out her plan is also infused with that quality, her signature, her design so to speak

    - ...the clock is ticking, meticulously stage your crime scene...
    - ...to fake a convincing murder you have to have discipline...
    - ...if I get everything right, the world will hate Nick...
    - ...and because you are you, you don’t stop there...

    - gut triad: anger/emotions are controlled – held back in the body, more rigid body posture -> energy/anger is felt in the body
    - anger and resentment local idiot, pregnant idiot, my lying cheating, oblivious husband, as if it's so hard to spread your legs, etc
    - critical, demanding ...but I made him smarter, sharper... I inspired him to rise to my level.

    1w2 sx first (sx/so). Maybe 3 fix.

    sx - first: focus on intimate issues, embodying/changing into whatever quality/energy is sexual attractive (...when I met Nick I knew he wanted cool girl...), also "Sexual Ones focus their perfectionism on their intimate relationships, holding an ideal image of what a relationship should be like and measuring their intimates against this standard" (what's the point of being together if you are not the happiest, .. he became someone I did not agree to marry). wing 2, because there is some sort of pleasing others, awareness of others needs (manipulation them basing on this awareness) quality in her, also they are "Far more likely to be a jealous*** intimate subtype than Ones with a 9 wing." 3 fix, because there is some sort of image pragmatism with her (you need to package yourself, so that people truly mourn your loss, and America loves pregnant women) she knows what works. sx first -> wing 2 -> 3 fix -> moves her more into the seducer (sx 2) area, more awareness/picking up/occupying your mind with masculinity/feminity role ideas (sx 3, cool girl).

    David Fincher:

    Ultimately, it was the self-absorbed characters that furthered Fincher’s interest in the project. As Fincher explained, "What I was most interested in was the idea of narcissism as a way to hold two people together, and the notion of how we project the best version of ourselves not only to seduce someone we imagine to be perfect for us, but also to have it fit into our own perfect narcissistic projection." He later referred to marriage as a "contract" and confessed to loving the “wrath" that is inspired when you can no longer endure the person you once thought was your better half. "I loved that in the book. It’s this thing where you look over at your wife or girlfriend and you see them holding their tongue, and then five years later the retribution starts. It’s funny." Most interesting to me was the idea of our collective narcissism as it relates to coupling, or who we show to our would-be mates and who they show to us.
    But, look, it’s not healthy to have an idea in your head of who your mate should be. Who your mate is should be revealed to you through interaction, the quality of the person’s character, the behavior they exhibit. But I certainly know that early on in my life, I had ideas that I could fix someone. But then the thing you realize, if you’re remotely sane, is that I can’t fix anything about anybody else, and I need to look at that part of myself that thinks this is who I need to see myself with, and also, what length did I go to, how much did I betray who I really am in order to seduce that person and lead them to believe that I was a suitable mate for them. Forget how much I was lying to you, how much was I lying to me? There are all kinds of narcissism that a modern cultural intersection needs to address, but this book was on a frequency or a channel that I hadn’t seen before.
    I hadn’t seen that. Yes, they partake of each other’s flesh, but that wasn’t the primary reason for them to have met. And it's not codependent love, which I really like about it.
    Last edited by Moonbeaux Rainfox; 03-28-2016 at 10:20 PM. Reason: changed the stacking

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