Oh yeah, sure, feeling somber/sad/sorrow is my favorite emotion, but there is plenty of anger and angst to go around as well. Its really not as bad as it seems though. I feel just OK most of the time.
[Edit] I think sadness is the most beautiful of all the emotions.
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Yeah I like to torture myself sometimes and wallow in it. I can turn just about any situation sad, if I feel the need to express that kind of energy. Then I get tired of myself doing it and shift to another emotion. I can wallow for long periods and intensify my own sadness then want to be all alone because "no one understands me". In those states no one, but me, can pull me out of it. Some call it depression but for me it is what I have known my whole life and part of my natural cycles.
I have gone the route of medications too though but I chose to go off the prescription drugs awhile back. They zapped energy and my creativity. I am not suggesting you do anything like that. I did it under the guidance of a psychiatrist and a therapist who fought him on my behalf to get me off the meds so that my therapy could help me recall everything that I was hiding from myself. The meds were counterproductive to what I needed to find out about myself.
Again not suggesting anyone does this on their own or if they are in a state of vulnerability. I just knew I didn't want to spend the rest of my life on them.
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
I would say this is the area of true empathy and not Fe since Fe seems more about influencing the other's emotions and general atmosphere. I can tell when someone with better Fe than me walks into a room because they can take it over and play the crowd, sts. In a good way usually. Empathy is more about experiencing the other's intentions and feelings as your own so why wouldn't Fi be able to do this? I am not well versed on Fi so please give me the simplest version of what Fi does, in your opinion? Just seems empathy is not related to the functions at all when you put it this way.
https://psychology-tools.com/empathy-quotient/
Your Empathy Quotient score was 61 out of a possible 80.
I will start a thread...
Edit: If you choose to answer I made a thread.
http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...pathy-Fi-or-Fe
Last edited by Aylen; 02-14-2015 at 02:04 PM.
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
Because Fi remains quiet and feels while Fe is too busy stirring the pot to get people showing emotions. I hug and tenderly touch while feeling the pain of my father so that he won't get mad while he's in pain about how my sister jokes to lighten the situation. I sit next to him and he says "honey it hurts and I haven't slept all night" and I can say I know dad I'm hereand I'm asking the nurses to make sure that you get your meds on time. I offer better reassuance
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
How is me saying that I don't care about what you do not empathizing. My empathy is towards something way more important than someone I don't know, at least right now. When that situation for me is clear and well, I can invest my emotions and time towards someone else, in the mean time I am not paying attention to your needs and I don't have to.
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
You seek a great fortune, you three who are now in chains. You will find a fortune, though it will not be the one you seek.
But first you must travel a long and difficult road, a road fraught with peril.
You shall see things, wonderful to tell. You shall see a... cow... on the roof of a cotton house. And, oh, so many startlements.
I cannot tell you how long this road shall be, but fear not the ob-stacles in your path, for fate has vouchsafed your reward.
Though the road may wind, yea, your hearts grow weary, still shall ye follow them, even unto your salvation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pukq_XJmM-k
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I don't think she's literally trying to type you. It sounds like she's just saying it seems insensitive to her.
It's hard to take if it's not what you do, but it's Fi. I've seen it in INFjs, usually more subtly. It works well in action with LSE, who can stay focused on general principles and ambitions, and in service of that be an upstanding citizen and treat "the masses" well, but the closer you get to him/her, the less well you'll be treated. It's hard to get close, to form the bond. So this particular aspect of Fi in Maritsa's statements emphasizes the converse, treating people who are closer to you with greater care and tuning out the people beyond your immediate circle.
Of course, that can go too far also, which is where her statements are ouchy. She needs LSE to help her universalize her caring sentiments.
If you've nothing positive to say, if you can't spare a moment to listen to someone talking about a clearly emotionally important issue with nothing positive to say, why take the time to say anything, why not just say nothing? I don't get this lack of common decency amongst those who espouse to have such values in abundance.
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
No i'm not particularly endowed with heart warming lovey dovey qualities but I don't claim to be either.
BUT I did remember reading about you mentioning the situation with your relative and I did approach it with more tact than you. I'd rather not be particularly rude or gruff but I know I have that way about me, just don't understand why you say you don't when you actually do.
You seek a great fortune, you three who are now in chains. You will find a fortune, though it will not be the one you seek.
But first you must travel a long and difficult road, a road fraught with peril.
You shall see things, wonderful to tell. You shall see a... cow... on the roof of a cotton house. And, oh, so many startlements.
I cannot tell you how long this road shall be, but fear not the ob-stacles in your path, for fate has vouchsafed your reward.
Though the road may wind, yea, your hearts grow weary, still shall ye follow them, even unto your salvation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pukq_XJmM-k
You seek a great fortune, you three who are now in chains. You will find a fortune, though it will not be the one you seek.
But first you must travel a long and difficult road, a road fraught with peril.
You shall see things, wonderful to tell. You shall see a... cow... on the roof of a cotton house. And, oh, so many startlements.
I cannot tell you how long this road shall be, but fear not the ob-stacles in your path, for fate has vouchsafed your reward.
Though the road may wind, yea, your hearts grow weary, still shall ye follow them, even unto your salvation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pukq_XJmM-k
I was looking for clarity and it turned out to be an energy drain. I gained some clarity anyway, from all the responses. @GOLDEN my sister is EII and she is more subtle like you mentioned.I could not see her publicly responding the same way because she has a wider awareness of how others may perceive her but she might be thinking and feeling similar. I am used to this kind of thing but was trying to grasp it more through a socionics context. Maritsa has put herself out as being knowledgeable and able to help people through socioncs. If something that I said upset her then I am not sure how she is going to help someone else understand. This is my experience with her but maybe others vibe with her that way.
Maybe it upset her because I talked about helping my dad when he was dying and she did not like that associated with what she is going through with her dad. I could actually understand that if that is the case. Who knows...
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
Thanks for sharing. I will take some time to reflect on it.
Here is a description of EIIs (the Humanist) from the Socionics duality descriptions that I have used to type some of my EII friends. It does seem to imply an ability to translate inner humanistic values into external behavior and words that can improve communication.
"The Humanist is very attentive towards people, which is not applicable to his dual who is interested more in results of work and communication rather than in the very process. For this reason The Administrator, who is usually reserved and polite, may give way to irritation and wrath, especially when people take his precious time. At such moments he loses the feeling of tactfulness, may become blunt. He needs an ever-reserved, diplomatic and peaceful partner by his side. The Humanist softens ethical mistakes of his dual, performs peacemaking activities. By his persuasions he softens harsh behavior of the Administrator, appeals to his inborn nobility, magnanimity and conscience. By doing this, he facilitates communication with others... "
You seek a great fortune, you three who are now in chains. You will find a fortune, though it will not be the one you seek.
But first you must travel a long and difficult road, a road fraught with peril.
You shall see things, wonderful to tell. You shall see a... cow... on the roof of a cotton house. And, oh, so many startlements.
I cannot tell you how long this road shall be, but fear not the ob-stacles in your path, for fate has vouchsafed your reward.
Though the road may wind, yea, your hearts grow weary, still shall ye follow them, even unto your salvation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pukq_XJmM-k
Yeah, I know what all the descriptions say, which is why I posted my thoughts. I've found that I have to interpret these descriptions according to biases -- those of the people who wrote them, as well as my own.
For example, "anger," mentioned in the description you quoted? To me, anger means drama, it means amplification, it's always direct and fierce. But some LSEs don't seem to show their anger in that way. (I know two of them who do. One is E8, and the other is a lunatic bitch.) Some angry LSEs, from my pov, just look kind of like they smelled something nasty or have severe indigestion. They might or might not say something harsh, it depends on a lot of factors. Apart from what their affect looks like, they will, however, make harsh decisions, do things with harsh consequences for people, out of anger, or just because of cluelessness.
And from an Fe point of view, Fi dom doesn't look like the peacemaking people person of that description (and others). To me, Fi dom looks kind of cold and prickly.
Mistake number one.
Sorry about your loss of your dad.@GOLDEN my sister is EII and she is more subtle like you mentioned.I could not see her publicly responding the same way because she has a wider awareness of how others may perceive her but she might be thinking and feeling similar. I am used to this kind of thing but was trying to grasp it more through a socionics context. Maritsa has put herself out as being knowledgeable and able to help people through socioncs. If something that I said upset her then I am not sure how she is going to help someone else understand. This is my experience with her but maybe others vibe with her that way.
Maybe it upset her because I talked about helping my dad when he was dying and she did not like that associated with what she is going through with her dad. I could actually understand that if that is the case. Who knows...
Well I was thinking more in terms of me mentioning my dad dying bothering her, which occurred to me after I said it, than what she and her sister did and I understand if some people would be uncomfortable with that. She made a point of using herself and her sister's behavior at the hospital as a difference between Fi and Fe when I asked for her to explain to me why she was not good at knowing people's real feelings and intentions. I feel if she was that sensitive about it in the way you suggest she would not have used that as her example and she made her sister sound insensitive and uncaring by claiming her sister wanted to make their father mad and by showing too much emotion which she said like it was a bad thing, to me. I have no way of knowing what her sister feels or her intentions and from her admission of not knowing people's real feelings, I don't think she does either. I felt she was dismissing her sister as not doing enough in the same way you could see my response coming off that way to her.
I mentioned and quoted her because this was not the thread for us to discuss the subject in and I was keeping it in context. I asked a mod to move our posts but they haven't yet. She talks of her empathy all the time and puts herself out as knowing more about socionics than a lot of other people. When I first joined I thought that was true and didn't get why people gave her such a hard time but not anymore. I was not the one who brought up her dad's situation. She could have used so many other examples. Her using the one she did made me feel more empathy for her though. I heard about her father quite some time ago so to me this was not something new.
@GOLDEN
Thank you. Some time has passed and I am at peace with it. Time does heal. <-- at least for me it does.
Last edited by Aylen; 02-15-2015 at 12:35 AM.
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Last edited by Beautiful sky; 02-15-2015 at 08:52 AM.
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
All of the above. Sorry @Aylen. Sometimes my emotions, because they are internal, react unexpectedly with full force, that is why Te works best for me as a match because they trace the events that happen and explain it back, saying things like "I can understand why you're upset honey, you worry about your father, and you haven't gotten any rest; I feel the same way too about my father" essentially what LSE is doing is that they are bringing light of actions that have happened or are happening that shed light on sequence of events at the same time offering up valuable information about me how I come off and am like, providing shape to me by descriptive words. I feel bad but you really should not have opened this thread at this time, but you also could not have known that I've been stressed and upset. My feelings are for my father and what's going on now.
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I think he's SLI too
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
GOLDEN, I don't know that you have explicitly said what type you think I am. I would love to hear your thoughts on what type I might be.
I don't see that at all. Subt doesn't really vibe like anyone else on this forum to me, except for birdie (possibly). Maybe if you are talking about a slightly dark, brooding, and chill energy but other than that I am not sure how they "talk the same".
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung