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    Quote Originally Posted by poops magoops View Post
    This is all so true. IEIs I have been attracted to (every single one I have ever met of course) think that I am not volitional enough, and am not aggressive enough to arouse interest. But I am married to an IEI with a strong Fe who appreciates my Creative Ti. Oh, and Mirage is my answer to the thread!
    I see.
    I have noticed that people tend to (preferably) go for someone who compliments their subtype. IEI-Fe with ILE is rather common, so is IEI-Fe with LII-Ti, etc. The Fe subtype will naturally seek out Logical types over Ethical ones. IME, Ni subtypes tend to either go for someone who is also Ni, or Se subtype. As in, most people in long-term relationships are with someone of the same or complimentary subtype. For instance, my parents have been married for decades and are both Si subtype (LSE-Si with ESE-Si).

    There is the general assumption that Logical and Ethical types attract and require each other to function harmoniously. I am not doubting that per se, though one's subtype can skew that, in the sense that Irrational subtypes will not experience such a particular pull towards either the Logical or Ethical leading type, except for a couple of people who are L/E leads themselves. (Like my parents. And I know of an LIE-Ni who dislikes dating Logical women.) Those who lead with either Thinking or Feeling are still more prone to need the F/T balance, less so when their subtype is Irrational; whereas Irrational leads are more open towards F-F or T-T relations in general, especially when their subtype is Irrational.

    Aka, it is no surprise I would feel more drawn to SEE opposed to ILE, and less seeking after Logical types, being both Ip temperament and Ni subtype. The types I have been attracted to the most so far in the past have been ESI, IEE, SEE, SLE. Note how the three of the four are Ethical types.

    I've grown up with quite a bunch of LSI guys in my youth, and I would enjoy the interaction; we'd be good friends, but there was no particular deeper attraction to any of them. Admittedly, that was before I seriously hit puberty, so that could have been it. As of late, there was one LSI guy I had found attractive in one of my classes, and I enjoy having LSIs around, but it is not so much their Ti that attracts me, but rather their Se. I bet I was mostly attracted to that one particular IEE-Fi guy from the past, because he would showcase his Se Role quite nicely, haha. I was caught in the infamous illusion of Extinguishment relations...

    Anyhow, I feel like I have started rambling and going off-topic.

    In summary: Obviously, IEI is Se-seeking by definition. Though based on my experiences, IEIs who were Fe subtype usually ended up with a Logical lead (LII or LSI mostly), or ILE, sometimes SLE-Ti (but rather rarely). Whereas IEIs who were Ni subtype ended up with another Ni lead (ILI or IEI), or a Creative Ni type (EIE, less commonly LIE), or an Se lead (SEE or SLE).

    I want to suggest that your subtype will likely determine your preference for either F or T types, especially in the circumstance of not finding one's Dual.

    Irrational subtype -> Drawn to Irrational temperament (Ip/Ep) and/or Irrational subtype. No particular preference for either F or T (F-F or T-T relation), apart from certain F/T leading types.
    Rational subtype -> Drawn to Rational temperament (Ij/Ej) and/or Rational subtype. Preference for either F or T (F-T relation), apart from certain S/N leading types.


    Last edited by Olimpia; 09-24-2015 at 08:41 AM.

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