Quote Originally Posted by SisOfNight View Post
That's interesting. Do you feel like you are the Fe subtype?

Personally, I couldn't be with my Beneficiary, and only with an Illusionary if their Ti subtype was strong.
Mainly because I am deeply irritated by the Childlike romance style. It just does not work for me at all.
Being a strong Ni subtype, I need someone to be more Aggressor. I need someone to be direct, pro-active, both romantically and lifestyle-wise in general.
I am way too passive myself. The Se of men gives me more reassurance; it reflects positively on me. If it is directed at me positively, it makes me feel more appreciated.
Ne, on the other hand, can sometimes make me feel insulted somehow. As if I was not taking seriously as a person, a woman.

Having said that, many years ago when I was a pre-teen up to my early teens, I used to be less strong Ni subtype, perhaps even close to the Fe subtype. Around that time, Gamma SF guys could not impress me too much. And yes, I could feel irritated by that "eagerness" ESFx people tend to present when engaging with someone.

Generally, subtype plays quite a role when it comes to what relation you'd prefer; especially if it is a pronounced subtype.
yes, i definitely think of myself as Fe subtype.

i know exactly what you mean about Infantile-Victim interactions, and the feeling of not being taken seriously. i guess that's what Infantile's requests for Si feel like to us - we want to give Ni instead, but it's not at all appreciated by Ne types. they are asking for something we do not value, that we cannot/do not want to give. IME, requests for direct Si help can immediately incite in me feelings of irritation (because i'm not interested) and stress (because i can't help them). i think the feeling you mention of being "insulted" can also apply to Fi demonstrations of affection (as bad as that sounds). something about it is not necessarily sincere to me, maybe because Fi knows "exactly what to say" in interpersonal situations. it can feel like they are saying what they think i want to hear, when i really need to hear the cold, hard truth

i prefer Ti subtypes, of course. i realized that i've often felt attracted to men that are "in the background" or whom i otherwise detect have a more reserved & distrustful side to them than their more positive, energetic public face may suggest. this description generally applies to many XLE-Ti subs, IMO.