For some there is a scale of importance. I know sx first people who do not put their children above their romantic partner. They may want to. They may even try but in the end the relationship between them and their romantic partner trumps everything. I also see how this causes inner conflict when it happens since they love their children very much. It seems a natural thing to put the children above the relationship, at least until they can fend for themselves (which most people do?) but two sx first might not do that. Then they get a lot of negative feedback from others and well meaning advice from people who do not understand.
Then you might have one partner who is sx first and say another who is another stacking and once they have children it may change the whole relationship, since one partner may feel the other has now moved their attention and affection to the children. I wonder if divorce rates are high due to stacking incompatibility sometimes.
It could also be the case where an sx first parent and sx first child may bond strongly as well and it may feel like the parent loves one child above the other which may not be true but the chemistry is there so the parent my play favorites either consciously or subconsciously. I am just looking at different ways that it may manifest in human interactions. Not trying to sell it as truth.![]()




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