Quote Originally Posted by Aylen View Post
If this article is statistically true then I find it inspiring. I wish I could see myself as 5 times more attractive than I am. My ex told me one of the worst things I do to myself is point out my flaws to people, right away, who would have never even noticed had I not chosen to point them out. I took his words to heart. Then recently someone else basically told me the same thing and kind of gently told me that it was a bit of a turn off when I did that.

People tend to see what you are projecting. When I feel beautiful others mention to me, without me pointing out anything, that I look beautiful that day or I am glowing or whatever. Fortunately most people I know are pretty tactful and do not go around telling me what my flaws are, with the exception of maybe one or two. I have had guys do that to me in order to bring me down a peg in the past. since I was kind of arrogant, and it worked. I still have some self esteem issues which are remnants from the past when I would compare myself to other people and their abilities and strengths. Therapy really did work for me but I still fall back into my old patterns of thought when I am not feeling energized, healthy, or I am feeling ignored. I hate feeling like I am being ignored. :/
It's come up before on the forum but the Dunning-Kruger effect may apply here. As one of my music teachers put it, paraphrased: "All of my shitty students think they're incredible, and all of my talented students think they suck."