I've written about this before probably many times, but there's a fascinating and consistent phenomenon I find b/w Sx-firsts I like to call the Sx Infinite Feeback Loop. One party throws out an idea or experience, then the other picks up that energy and mirrors it back, adding their own energy and experience to the mix. This keeps going back and forth until both sides inhabit this hyper-energized state where they're swimming in a collective pool of their energies. Kind of like how lasers work, where one photon sets off a resonance chain that stimulates other photons into arousal, and the light emitted gets incestuously rebounded back towards the center, compounding and heightening even further.
This has nothing to do with "finding the special someone" or any of the other lovey-dovey romantic crap. This can happen between any two Sx-types so long as they somehow find themselves fixated on what the other has to say. I've had this happen to me where I get caught in a 90 minute conversation where, in hindsight, I don't give a shit about the other guy's experiences at all. But because he's so invested in what he has to say, I by proxy am invested in his story for the time being, and naturally reciprocate that bombardment of energy to match.
Naturally, there's a certain reading of the other person that has to happen while this is going on in order to gauge what's stimulating and what isn't. Going back to what @mfckr said about eye contact, mutuality of experience etc., Sx-firsts seem to always be on the lookout for internal reactivity in others, looking for what makes people tick and how they rile themselves up. Without that visible dynamic interplay of ebb and flow in interactions, they'll get to feeling rather stifled, like the other person simply isn't capable of interacting in a naturally expected way.
Sx-secondary types will superficially exhibit this similar process, but will usually treat it like a game or a mask they wear when interacting with others. A little flash in the pan before they settle back to their primary mode of functioning. Sx-lasts can seem bewildered by this, and won't know how to properly reciprocate such a high level of internal stimulation.
Of course all of this verbage is meaningless without being able to actually demonstrate an example, so y'all are bound to misinterpret and skew my wordings as you see fit.



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