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Well, I think that most of my immediate family members are sx first. Seeking, obsessive, fanatical in their own ways. Wanderlust - looking for THE place that will finally be the right place with never-ending exploration, Informationlust - finding all the possible information about a topic and exhausting every resource in devouring it, and discussing it non-stop before moving on to next captivating interest, Meaninglust - throwing self into job, and self-discovery trying to find meaningful, fulfilling work, and of course fierce devotion in intimate relationships in every case.
I think perhaps the reason sx is overtyped is because it's romanticized. Single-minded obsession and throwing yourself into something or someone with no net to catch you is really not quite as pleasant as "one-to-one" or other means of describing sx instinct. With no stops on it from other instincts it would go beyond the fanatical to the insane.
Everyone wants intimacy and close relationships. And depending on whether your other needs are met or not, it may seem more or less important. Just like you don't realize the importance of food or shelter unless it's missing, I think a lot of people may type as sx out of loneliness. There is a lot of loneliness, especially among people spending a good deal of time on the internet. Describe sx as desiring a close merging relationship with another person to someone who is lonely and of course they'll identify with it. Everyone I think wants to know and be known by someone special. And people who want to be seen as sexy or sexual will also type as sx, for the image of it. But far less people in reality would be willing to give up other things for who/what they love. Everyone says they would, but when it comes down to an actual decision, well it's just not that convenient. Some people wouldn't even give up a meal or a night of sleep, others couldn't give up a night out with their friends. Your priorities show in your actions, what you're actually willing to do.
Stackings seem to be clumped in my experience. Where you find some sp-firsts, you'll likely find more. Where you'll find some so-firsts, you'll find more. I think overall the stackings are probably pretty evenly divided, but being some places might make you think everyone is social, or everyone is sp or sx, just because it seems like they group together.
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