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    Serious Left-Static Negativist Eliza Thomason's Avatar
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    This is interesting, @ConcreteButterfly. How did you put it together? I see it works well with DarkAngelFireWolf69's Erotic types. I noticed some of the Aggressor ones, when I look up where their Si is on Model A, it works, your description works for that Aggressor type. And the description fits for my SLI husband and I.

    It would be helpful if you could put types codes next to each one of those, or if someone else could. It would be much easier to consider the theory.

    What I read seems to fit. I am not entirely comfortable with my IEE's but I think its just the wording. The essence of its true. For IEE, Si is in Suggestive Function, and, its not our strongest place. So our Dual has it in a very strong place. It works.

    For IEE its: "Suggestive - Hesitates to initiate sex unless partner is clearly receptive. Often oblivious to their partner's discomfort and their own, can unintentionally attract or repel a partner by their mannerisms, clothing choices, etc. Evasive of strong sexual advances, but receptive to gentleness, needs a lenient partner who can go at their sometimes 'staccato' pace. Sex takes a backseat to intellectual pursuits so is sometimes sexually inert. "

    The terms "inert" and "staccato" and "repelling" put me off in this description. But I'll try to consider them anyway. Its true my obliviousness does at times completely unintentionally attract, so, it must work the other way, too. I mean, as far as drawing attention - I try to look my best before I go out, and I forget about how I look when I am out, and I am definitely not trying to attract; I am in my own head, and when I do attract its a "surprise". I suppose if I repel, I shrug it off since I was not trying to attract or repel (I cannot think of an example, perhaps because I don't dwell on negative experiences. Oh, the only example I can think of is someone on 16t has told me they are repelled by me and I really can't imagine how. The explanation makes no sense to me. So, that does fit with the above notion of attracting and repelling obliviously.)

    Yes, I would not initiate unless I knew my partner was receptive. In the beginning with SLI, I did initiate touch, and that's because my IEE intuition made me quite sure he was more interested than he was letting on! And I wanted to tease it out of him. (I was right! He was! ). We are married now and I don't have to question if he is receptive, because he always is!

    I, on the other hand, can be unprepared. Perhaps this is what is meant by that "staccato pace" and "inert" --that there are times my mind is so far from Si enjoyments. SLI is lenient about this. But I don't want to leave him hanging too long, though, sometimes its hard to know how to change my mood as fast as I'd like. Quieting my mind helps. SLIs touch helps.

    To me SLI seems like a bundle of Si sensations and awareness. His hands, oh my goodness. There must be something so special about SLI hands. They can wake me up and pull me out of my mind, so fast, when my mind had previously been so far from any Si awarenesses. As Ann said here, they are very into their awareness of sensation received, but I find, as mentioned in the OP, he also attunes his movements to mine, and he has strong awareness of my subtlest responses and adjusts so we are in tune.

    And I have reached the edge of how detailed as I can get!

    Quote Originally Posted by lemontrees View Post
    so how do Ne types experience sex lol. like constantly evaluating "she had c reaction it could mean x, y, or z?"
    LOL. Maybe the above answered some of that. We are Si seeking, we just don't know how to find it. And Si-base brings it.

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    P.S. I should add, in reference to the above descriptor of Si suggestive function, that it's true - I was always adeptly skillful at evading strong sexual advances, and I am taken in by gentle advances (in my SLI husband's case, his first gentle very subtle advance bowled me over, made me completely fall helplessly for him).
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