I wrote a similar post in another thread but i know this will go down a lot better here. Do other people, especially ENFp's have a bit of an endless search going for themselves? I think i have always had this to some extent.
I think what really drives this is feeding with information.
Let me give you an example of how this might happen in say my life
I Wake up and I think. Lets be nicer today
Im nice to someone. He takes advantage of me because im nice and convinces me to swap a shift with him that stuffs me up.
+ goes well that sucks. Lets try to be a bit hard
So i turn into a bit of a hard person. A street person asks me for some money. I say no not today.... BAM kicks in and tells me off. You have plenty of money where is your compassion asshole? So then i decide i need to become good again.
I seem to have all these contradictions like
If im nice, i seem to get a lot of angry customers. They smell weakness
If im nice to girls, they think im being to fake / nice when its really me
If im tougher to girls etc they can probablly tell its not me
ENFp enjoy fitting in with everyone. It seems we can do this extremely well, however in doing so we can loose sense a little of who we are.