P.S: If it hasn't become obvious yet, Kpop media is very So/Sx + Alpha SF.
P.S: If it hasn't become obvious yet, Kpop media is very So/Sx + Alpha SF.
・゚*✧ 𝓘 𝓌𝒾𝓁𝓁 𝓃𝑜𝓉 𝒶𝒸𝒸𝑒𝓅𝓉 𝒶 𝓁𝒾𝒻𝑒 𝓘 𝒹𝑜 𝓃𝑜𝓉 𝒹𝑒𝓈𝑒𝓇𝓋𝑒 ✧*:・゚
SQUISH
A "crush" on someone that is not associated with a desire for a romantic or sexual relationship. The desire to get to know them and be important to them is purely platonic in nature.
Characterized by admiration, respect and affection for a person.
Usually involves feelings generally associated with having a crush on someone i.e. feeling happy when they talk to you, caring a lot about their opinion of you, looking forward to seeing them, thinking about them a lot, intense happiness when your feelings are reciprocated, etc.
I've had a "squish" on almost all of my close friends before.
It seems like So/Sx people usually have "squishes" on friends.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Platonic_love#Overview
http://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/...ealing-secrets
https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/plato-friendship/
...Yes, they are very platonic relationships.
"darksider" so/sx either e6 or 9w8
Iglesias himself may even be SO/SX, this video got the vibe. Some 9, 7, 2/3 energy.
this oldie <3 (so/sx the sx subtype)
Anything Bollywood:
Most new musicals:
KPop:
...Oh, and fireworks:
What else is So/Sx? I think I have it covered.
"A minute later she asked me if I loved her [his dead mother]. I told her it didn’t mean anything but that I didn’t think so."
After a lot more of this:
"As if that blind rage had washed me clean, rid me of hope; for the first time, in that night alive with signs and stars, I opened myself to the gentle indifference of the world. Finding it so much like myself—so like a brother, really—I felt that I had been happy and that I was happy again. For everything to be consummated, for me to feel less alone, I had only to wish that there be a large crowd of spectators the day of my execution and that they greet me with cries of hate."
– Mersault, The Stranger by Albert Camus
1000 Ways to Die #0: Always Tell the Truth, Especially Far More than is Requested
Maybe who we are beyond all ideas is "dead" though, anyways. If there were never an idea of myself in my mind again, I'm actually pretty sure I would be dead.
Mersault: Super So/Sx
Social dominant, Sexual 2nd, Self-Preservation blindspot (SO/SX) "The Intense Appealer"
• Mindset: "If I can get close to people with merging/intensity, I can make sure of and keep improving my position and inclusion in the group/world."
• Has strong one to one social skills but can be uncomfortable in group settings
• Cultivate many relationships, involved when in the presence of someone they’re interested in, but have difficulty sustaining these bonds when they are apart
• Seem flightly/rootless, willing to adapt and mirror others to connect
• May be political, but is more pragmatic and less partisan than SO/SP
• May be attuned to pop culture or latest trend
• Aren’t as concerned with having roots on land or material items of significance
• Want to create lasting connections with those they are interested in, the best friend
• Archetypes: The Strolling Minstrel, regalia, jester, the mayor
• Missing SP earth, lacking the dull weight, stick-in-the-mud quality of earth
• Butterfly, shimmer and sparkle unsullied by dirt and seriousness/mundane concerns
• Breakup of the monotony of hardened routines, incapacitation/difficulty moving forward in certain areas in life
• Practical immaturity, nomadic, no roots
• Wide, ubiquitous presence, hard to grasp, up-in-the-air, wishy-washy, wide-ranging passion and interest
• Inherent kind of intensity about others - engaging them, understanding them; seems to 'relax' among people, not necessarily engaging them just spending time with people for them is like being in a hot, relaxing bath
• Dangerously magnetic charisma, perfected, elegant social appearance & competence, ability to make everyone relax, often floats from group to group or person to person with grace and ease, feeling close to no one while inspiring others to feel close to them; selectivity within social sphere; inherent kind of social elegance makes for a pickier person
• Acute emotional perception and 'people awareness', they readily share these perceptions with others, so can make for spell-binding councelors, life-coaches, etc.
• The social world (i.e. culture, history, media) is asexual so, when stressed, the SO/SX can struggle to build romantic relationships. This can be confusing for other people because the intensity of intellectual and emotional connection i.e. friendship, may lend itself to romance but nothing happens
• The least sober stacking. SP imparts some grounding, so when it's last, it feels like there's not a place to plug into practicality. And SX/SO at least has some focused drive (even, perfectionism) from the SX-firstness.
• SO/SX is all about the narrative and symbiotic needs. Image story theater and, the story. Very clever and hyper-observant of others, can be constantly manipulative in an obsessive way, planning and working to gain what they want from others, networking on cruise control, happy to tell white lies and bend a story for a desired outcome. Honesty comes second to symbiotic needs. Skilled in the application of communication skills as a tool and charm and grace in a comforting way for people to relax and trust the interlace of the SO/SX. If one is compatible with the SO/SX in interests and shared values, they are one of the most insightful and interesting and entertaining people to converse with and truly care about other people and seek to share their understanding via gentle connection of mind and heart.
• Pair Bonding: Needs friendly bonds with mate, groups of friends, and community at large
• Energy: Mechanical energy -> Chemical energy (-> = then)
Focus on the interaction of things, and how their “chemical energy” influences these interactions. They use their “chemical energy” to help them interact better. They seek a bond with everything they interact with.
• SO-first - identify with being socially adaptive
• SP-last - messy, scattered
• soft and sparkly
• concerned with the connections between different people/members of the collective
• warm, outward all-encompassing focus soaks gently inward
Why do SO/SX's like cultivating friendship bonds?
SO/SX's infuse sexuality into social relations
SX ---> into ---> SO
Source
Pitbull - SLE so/sx (lightside?)
Chris Brown - SLE so/sx (darkside?)
lightside so/sx
Last edited by lynn; 09-19-2017 at 03:44 PM.
Well I wouldn't say my happiness largely depends on other people.. like every stacking depends on at least one other person to make them happy or fulfill some needs an humans are social beings in general.
BUT life definitely feels more fulfilling when I feel I am doing important stuff and am appreciated by others, or have them recognise my contributions as valuable. I would also say I looove to meet new people when I am at social events (though I can be awkward and shy in the beginning.. atleast sometimes, lol).. like I hate being stuck in one group forever and ever, always with the same people when I could meet many more (yet I value very intimate and special friendships.. but only with 'chosen' individuals, whom I really enjoy being with).
I sometimes am definitely much more into my close friendships than in romance actually.. like it is weird, but I relate to valuing friendship above everything almost. Having that one special best friend with whom you could do and share everything with was definitely my dream since ages and being favoured and appreciated over everybody else, while not being romantically involved (sounds weird lol). I was also always envious when I saw other people have so many good friends or have a friend they could really connect to, have fun with and talk about topics they would really enjoy and when they actually got all the love back they gave. I personally as IEI didn't meet many compatible people in the past.. like many ESE girls probably had it easier to find a bestie because they are much more common in my experience, so it is easier to find people from your quadra who 'accept' and 'value' the same stuff as you. Always hung out with lots of Ne types because of intuitive topics, but it never really clicked. I feel much better around Se-doms, but I always felt I couldn't keep up, haha.
I think me being so-first might have developed either because my mother 'gave' me my instinct since I heavily suspect her being so/sx too or because I always struggled with 'so'.. like I always had atleast a few friends and there were times were I was kinda popular (and lots of times I wasn't lmao), but I barely in my life felt like I found these really amazing friends eveyone else seemed to have, like a real connection where you could share everything.
Last edited by dot; 09-16-2017 at 02:06 PM.