What do you hate about your type?

[Rocky]

I hate how strongly I feel things (or, feel about things). I really don't see it as an advantage. It's caused me more harm then good in the past. I wish that I could just not care about things, but, I can't.

This is one thing I envy about ESTPs.

[Slacker]

I hate how disorganized I am. I can't seem to fix it, no matter what.

I also hate that I have trouble making small decisions. Big ones I can handle. Little decisions though and I'm lost.

[oyburger]

I hate that I can't seem to fit in anywhere in regards to people and groups. I don't want to be apart of the group but I do at the same time. Maybe I've been shunned enough times that I just say I don't want to be apart of it when really I do.

Also I feel like I can never reveal my "true" self to anyone (its chased more than a few people away).

[Creepy-pokeball]

I hate how strongly I feel things (or, feel about things). I really don't see it as an advantage. It's caused me more harm then good in the past. I wish that I could just not care about things, but, I can't.

This is one thing I envy about ESTPs.

Mature ISTps that are drunk feel like this to me. They seem to hide it well in normative settings.


Sorry that I dont have anything further to share on the subject atm.

[Rocky]

Mature ISTps that are drunk feel like this to me. They seem to hide it well in normative settings.

YES

[Rocky]

This is one thing I envy about ESTPs.

[Creepy-pokeball]

Mature ISTps that are drunk feel like this to me. They seem to hide it well in normative settings.

YES

I think it is cute although my saying so prolly makes you uncomfortable :/

[FDG]

The bad mood that comes out of nowhere from time to time, and that I force to hide. A certain anger that comes if I don't expend energy during the day.

[anndelise]

I can't say I hate anything about my NeFi.

Admittedly, the physical and mental disorganization and indeciveness get's annoying/frustrating...but in the long haul, those are minor disadvantages compared to all the advantages I get. Just because I can't organize my thoughts in ways that others can access doesn't mean that I'm as flighty as they think I am. It does mean that they don't realize I'm watching them and finding their weaknesses as they attempt to patronize me. That I'm aware of their values they don't even know they are expressing...and that if I chose to, I could use it against them. Thankfully for them....my using someone's values against them is reserved for when I'm helping someone in a legal battle.....(in which case you use the law's values against itself).

I do find it annoying that I'm looked down on not only for the mental disorganization, but the physical as well...particularly household clutter. I feel that how I live should be about what I, personally, value in my living environment, and not what others value in their own living environment (unless of course we are sharing living environments). But, here again... while my FeSi friend is working her ass off trying to keep her home spotless....I'm using that time to study/participate in whatever the hell I want to. So, while I "pity" her scrubbing her life away, I relish getting to enjoy it.

Again, while there are some annoyances to being NeFi...there are great advantages to it as well.

[Rocky]

I have a second one.

I hate how I can never tell if people are being genuine or fake to me. I've grown a neurosis about that over time, but I don't like people to see it.

[Rocky]

Mature ISTps that are drunk feel like this to me. They seem to hide it well in normative settings.

YES

I think it is cute although my saying so prolly makes you uncomfortable :/

It's fine.

[Rocky]

Ann, you can do better then that.

[anndelise]

Ann, you can do better then that.

Silver linings, Rocky.

[Logos]

I hate that I can't seem to fit in anywhere in regards to people and groups. I don't want to be apart of the group but I do at the same time. Maybe I've been shunned enough times that I just say I don't want to be apart of it when really I do.

Also I feel like I can never reveal my "true" self to anyone (its chased more than a few people away).

Agree.

I also hate my general lack of initiative. If I actually had initiative, who knows what great things I would have already had accomplished by now.

[XoX]

I hate it that I'm naturally talented at pissing people of I can compensate this side of me very well in organized and peaceful social contexts and be even charming but if the context is chaotic and I'm under pressure I become really rough, bossy, biting and lacking in manners.

[anndelise]

I hate that I can't seem to fit in anywhere in regards to people and groups. I don't want to be apart of the group but I do at the same time. Maybe I've been shunned enough times that I just say I don't want to be apart of it when really I do.

Also I feel like I can never reveal my "true" self to anyone (its chased more than a few people away).

Agree.

I also hate my general lack of initiative. If I actually had initiative, who knows what great things I would have already had accomplished by now.

I got LOTS of initiative....I just lack direction and follow through. But, if given the choice of initiative vs follow through I'd choose initiative. Get someone else going who'd be interested in what I'm initiating and ride their coattails until my attention turns....or find out what someone else wants to do and get the ball rolling on it for them.

Yes, once in a while I do get frustrated cuz I don't follow through...but that is mostly because someone else is disappointed that i'm not following through, and i don't want to disappoint them.

But yes, every once in a while, I think of the great things I could have accomplished had i had the follow through and/or proper direction.

[implied]

Sometimes you pay so much attention to certain jobs that this waste of time and energy can lead you to become fatigued and even to lose interest in the work.

[Joy]

I hate that I never put away my laundry

that's prolly not really all that type related though

[Slava]

I'm a lazy emotionally paracitic asshole and attention whore who doesnt like eye contact because I think everyone is stupid

Ok now the part about myself that I don't like....

I could be a little bit more manipulative i suppose. I need more practice I guess.

[XoX]

I'm a lazy emotionally paracitic asshole and attention whore who doesnt like eye contact because I think everyone is stupid

Ok now the part about myself that I don't like....

I could be a little bit more manipulative i suppose. I need more practice I guess.

lol

[vague]

[meatburger]

i hate the fact that i cannot control the bouts of depression that come over me. it's like a chemical thing that happens, and i cannot, for the sake of my own self, talk myself out of it. i hate that; i want to be in control!

The INFj friend of mine had that. I also have it to a lesser extent. The key to depression i personally believe is not to fight it. If you fight it it becomes a demon.

I also hate that i cannot be more stable in my emotions. Sometimes i get sad that my Ne feeds my Internal Thoughts so much. Its like a STORM of thoughts. Its amazing how i dont break down lol. I cannot stop analysing myself it gets too much every now and then.

I was just thinking about it. At the moment the one thing i dont like about it is i am having trouble finding myself. I feel like a chamelion. Do i act tough, do i act kind, do i act funny? I seem to have this internal struggle with who i should be. Probablly comes from watching others so much. Hidden agenda "to know". I am more than capable of being all of these things but it gets tiring.

[olduser]

edit:

sometimes my self-improving nature makes it hard for me to adjust to others and their lifestyles. I put too much emphasis on my personal health.

[pesto]

i hate the fact that i cannot control the bouts of depression that come over me. it's like a chemical thing that happens, and i cannot, for the sake of my own self, talk myself out of it. i hate that; i want to be in control!

The part about wanting to be in control can be overcome. Try it, you'll like it.

[Expat]

I dislike it that I'm always making the mistake of assuming that people have logical reasons for their actions and words.

[snegledmaca]

Not a thing. All of my problems (The things I consider as problems) are not type related.

[pesto]

@pesto... yes, i do believe that some of it u can control... but not always. when u experience a lot of tragedy, your mind becomes different, and u do not look at life the same.

I meant that you can stop wanting to be in control and learn to go with the flow more.

ETA: I'm not trying to be an ass about this. I know what I'm talking about - I've lost all control. And survived.

[schrödinger's cat]

All the things people said seem just the flipsides of their actual strengths. Some of them are so cute it made me want to hug everybody.

What I hate about being an ENFp is the never being quite sure if I'm right or not. I like the fact that I can see things from all possible points of view, but obviously this sort of weakens my own viewpoint - there's always this nagging voice saying "...but could there be more to it than that? Maybe you missed something. Maybe it's all totally different." Sometimes I just want to have this totally unshakeable sense of conviction other types have ("I'm right and you're stupid").

[Kristiina]

PS! Warning. If you're in a good mood, don't read this post.

I hate that my life is just a cycle of high goals and high expectation and the feeling that I haven't accomplished anything. I am not able to relax because I know how the time would be spent more effectively. I hate how I don't have the strength to stop procrastinating, but how I feel indescribably guilty doing it. I hate how I remember some moments from my past too vividly and how my mind exaggerates the meaning of those moments. I hate how I am never fully satisfied with my accomplishments, because I keep remembering the moments where I did some small mistake. I hate that I feel like each and every mistake I have ever made will have an impact of the present. There is no such thing as past, because the past is just another part of the road to the present.

If I insult someone by accident and I see the sad look in their eyes, I'll remember that moment excrusiatingly vividly even 8.5 years later. If I remember it, it fills my head and body with the feeling of that moment and I HATE it.

[Expat]

If I insult someone by accident and I see the sad look in their eyes, I'll remember that moment excrusiatingly vividly even 8.5 years later. If I remember it, it fills my head and body with the feeling of that moment and I HATE it.

Regardless of your type, this is a very clear description of how acts supported by .

EDIT: hopefully it also works for moments of positive feelings.

[Nessy]

I'm tired of being considered to be emotionless, cold and not eager. People give me a puzzle by demanding me to be more keen while I think it's enough. This led me to the point that I have in PoRL.

[XoX]

If I insult someone by accident and I see the sad look in their eyes, I'll remember that moment excrusiatingly vividly even 8.5 years later. If I remember it, it fills my head and body with the feeling of that moment and I HATE it.

Regardless of your type, this is a very clear description of how acts supported by .

Hmm...it is? Well maybe it is then I can see the part at least.

All the things people said seem just the flipsides of their actual strengths. Some of them are so cute it made me want to hug everybody.

Well I'm sure you wouldn't want to hug me when I'm stressed and bossing you around Even though that might be just what it takes to make me relax and stop it

I hate that I feel like each and every mistake I have ever made will have an impact of the present.

I feel like I want to hug you now! *hug* I mean you are so hard on yourself. Why you call these things mistakes? Who is to judge if they were mistakes or not. To me they are just "events". Things that led me to where I am now. I don't think they were mistakes just events. I wouldn't be here writing this post without all those things happening and neither would you. I mean if you hadn't insulted someone 8,5 years ago you wouldn't be here telling about it and receiving hugs and so on. I mean really . Call these "mistakes" events or lessons and learn from them. Don't hit yourself with them so hard Ok if it is type related you probably can't help it much but anyways

[Rocky]

All the things people said seem just the flipsides of their actual strengths. Some of them are so cute it made me want to hug everybody.

Can you be more specific?

Sometimes I just want to have this totally unshakeable sense of conviction other types have ("I'm right and you're stupid").

The opposite of me!

[Rocky]

If I insult someone by accident and I see the sad look in their eyes, I'll remember that moment excrusiatingly vividly even 8.5 years later. If I remember it, it fills my head and body with the feeling of that moment and I HATE it.

Regardless of your type, this is a very clear description of how acts supported by .

Hmm... maybe I'm too...

[Rocky]

I'm tired of being considered to be emotionless, cold and not eager. People give me a puzzle by demanding me to be more keen while I think it's enough. This led me to the point that I have in PoRL.

That just makes you an Introvert, not necassarily an POLR.

[FDG]

If I insult someone by accident and I see the sad look in their eyes, I'll remember that moment excrusiatingly vividly even 8.5 years later. If I remember it, it fills my head and body with the feeling of that moment and I HATE it.

Regardless of your type, this is a very clear description of how acts supported by .

Hmm... maybe I'm too...

I think it's dynamic + negativist

[Slacker]

I mean you are so hard on yourself. Why you call these things mistakes? Who is to judge if they were mistakes or not. To me they are just "events". Things that led me to where I am now. I don't think they were mistakes just events. I wouldn't be here writing this post without all those things happening and neither would you. I mean if you hadn't insulted someone 8,5 years ago you wouldn't be here telling about it and receiving hugs and so on. I mean really . Call these "mistakes" events or lessons and learn from them. Don't hit yourself with them so hard Ok if it is type related you probably can't help it much but anyways

Yeah! Everything we do, bad and good, gets us to where we're going! If I hadn't made some of the (MANY) mistakes I've made, my whole life would be different, and very possibly worse.

Cheer up, everyone!

[Rocky]

If I insult someone by accident and I see the sad look in their eyes, I'll remember that moment excrusiatingly vividly even 8.5 years later. If I remember it, it fills my head and body with the feeling of that moment and I HATE it.

Regardless of your type, this is a very clear description of how acts supported by .

Hmm... maybe I'm too...

I think it's dynamic + negativist

Too bad Smilex thinks ISTPs are positivits...

[FDG]

If I insult someone by accident and I see the sad look in their eyes, I'll remember that moment excrusiatingly vividly even 8.5 years later. If I remember it, it fills my head and body with the feeling of that moment and I HATE it.

Regardless of your type, this is a very clear description of how acts supported by .

Hmm... maybe I'm too...

I think it's dynamic + negativist

Too bad Smilex thinks ISTPs are positivits...

You're a Te borderline on INTP, which makes you more negative than positive. Take a look at the chart



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[Nessy]

I'm tired of being considered to be emotionless, cold and not eager. People give me a puzzle by demanding me to be more keen while I think it's enough. This led me to the point that I have in PoRL.

That just makes you an Introvert, not necassarily an POLR.

So you're extrovert

jk, but it sounds like the 'misunderstanding by psychologists (Jung is said to state this)' of Jungian introversion a bit rather than Socionics. I adore an INFp's warm smile besides it costs me overempathy.