I find that ILEs, whom I often like a lot, will get very insistent about their ideas, and I don’t care to argue with them very long because there is not always a way in to their logic. But I don’t take this very seriously. I don’t think of them as usually trying to attack or upset. It looks more like they are trying on an idea or viewpoint, and they will stay very lodged in it until they are ready for another one. It looks like this may be how they learn and grow? But I’m saying this from the outside, so any ILEs are ofc free to tell me I’ve got this wrong.
The way they react to Fe is sometimes really overt ime, they will say, “Your face is always so expressive,” or “You always know what I want.” (I don’t, but I do read interpersonal scenarios carefully.) I am kind of the same with Se leads—certain things they do I will marvel at, it impresses me and is a bit magical.
Meanwhile, Fi is just a drag to them. For an ILE to offer their ideas to you only for you to be upset by them emotionally sounds entirely terrible. It’s better not to take most of what an ILE says personally, and reserve any real upset for when they have stepped totally over a line and need to know that. And then it’s not “you hurt me,” which is hard for them to hear, but “this is just not a thing you can do or say. It doesn’t work that way.”
This is all how it looks from the POV of someone who likes ILEs but has only Fe and no Si for them. I assume it’s distorted somewhat.


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