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Fe hidden agenda for me is a deep need to be accepted and to see that I'm being accepted. That people are sincerely smiling, laughing, telling me I'm (insert some positive characteristic). When those outward expressions don't match an individuals true feelings (or what they'll base whether they want a friendship, relationship, etc. on) I can be completely blindsided and truly hurt. Growing up (elementary school-high school) I was often a sucker for trying to get people to express positive emotions towards me and would really never understand why someone else wouldn't express positive emotions towards me. Now I'm much more ok with others not liking me, but still feel a deep need to have at least some people truly like me.
Just like people with a Te hidden agenda appreciate "honest" expressed intellectual information, I appreciate honest "emotional" information. So like with humor a lot of Alpha comedians will say things that just aren't true but that one needs Ti to get. For me if someone does that with feelings (they outwardly express positive feelings towards me but internally hate me or want to manipulate me) I get thrown for a bad loop. As long as people are happy around me, and that that happiness is real and legitimate I'm happy. Sure the expressed emotion can be a little bit stronger than the (Fi) connection is, but if it's completely off I get deeply troubled and start questioning my relationships (all of them) more than I should.
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