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    Quote Originally Posted by chips and underwear View Post
    I need approval from others to some extent to feel good about myself.

    I think everyone does to some degree, except maybe some sociopaths.

    People have a basic intrinsic need to feel accepted.

    It's pathetic when you worry about it so much it interferes with your living a happy and fulfilling life.

    I tend to worry too much about what others think and other peoples' approval. Not quite to the level of patheticness, but more than I should.
    You sound like an EII more than a LII. Particularly due to the way you said this, more than what you said itself.

    I agree with your general idea that everyone is affected in a way or other by other's opinions about oneself. Most people will integrate (at least partly) these external judgements (here psychopaths are excluded). But you talk about this phenomenon as something almost intrisically positive (except if too much), and this sounds closer to an ethical person than a logic one.

    From the POV of a Ti dom (this would be the case if you are a LII) ethics of relationships (Fi) is the role function, therefore acklowdeged and considered important, but still unvalued. The need of pleasing other people's moral judgements would be seen as an annoyance, something that disturbs the "final quality of Ti reasonings and their implications", so to speak. I purposedly used the word need, pointing out that this behavior is intrinsic to the user and acknowledged in this way, that is, not something which is seen as exclusively forced from the outside.

    For a Fi dom this behavior is seen as important and intrinsically positive, and that's the reason they could behave as moral perfectionists more than other types (statistically). For a Ti dom, this external influence in oneself is seen as important and a necessity for the proper workings of society, but would not be feel/perceived as intrinsically positive (for the user at least). More as an annoying encumbrance, actually, as it corresponds to a superego function and its domain. It's like renouncing to a part of yourself (the same for and others) "to achieve a greater good", but you're still renouncing to something. You would not do it if it were not strictly necessary...

    I guess it could be the words that you have chosen, as a reaction and JOA's post (which fits very well in a Fi PoLR user, by the way), and you could very well be LII despite of this. But I point this out because you have "Se PoLR" in your TIM so I suspect you're uncertain about which xIIs fits better in you. Maybe this comment could be useful in this process.



    P.S. According to DCNH, harmonizing subtypes integrate in groups (societies) more easily, so this could explain a sort of "EII-ish" style... still the commented difference should apply.
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