Aisa it's very hard for me to type people based on this information. People with different stackings can do exactly the same things but with different motivations, so it's hard to tell. I also agree you kinda have to know them in person and feel their energy or some shitPics would be of great help, but I agree it's not ok to post pics of people without their permission.
I will read this descriptions more precisely though and see what I can come up with.
I disagree completelyI wouldn't be so quick, variant stackings can be very tricky. This statement alone doesn't mean that this is this persons primary motivation in life. But if we go by that statement alone I would say so/sp and not the other way around.
Don't agree either, it depends completely on individual."Special connection" can mean very different things to different people.
Sx is certainly not about fucking around though. And sex drive is not really an indicator (at least that's the consensus, but I dont really agree with it completely - I think there are some major correlations) In my experience people who are sx last for example, especially sp/so, give off kind of an asexual vibe.
Sx first when unhealthy can certainly show as promiscuity (or ironically, as abstinence - both as an unhealthy way to deal with your neurosis).
I don't agree that sx first people are necessarily looking for a romantic connection or that they're extremely idealistic - it depends on an individual . Sx is more about the intense one on one connection (with people, things, ideas, hobbies), not necesarily romantic idealism (that's more E4 stuff).
Sx last can also manifest in weird ways and with some strange relations to sexuality. Sx middle probably in general has least fucked up relationship with sex, because the second instinct is the one that causes you the least neurosis.
THIS.The last instinct is your blind spot, the one you are clueless and inept at, but don't care about it that much. The first is your neurosis, which "drives your life" and you would sacrifise other things for it (especially the last instinct). The first instinct is behind your motivations, but the second instinct is the "road" you take to get or satisfy the first one. Cause if you don't get your first met, you get higly neurotic and anxious. (well at least how high it is compared to others). Basically, what silke said
Morbidity is more E4, E5 territorry, but yeah, probably not with sx last. Instinctual variants manifest very differently in different Enneagram types. E5 sx/sp will be very different in terms of intensity and withdrawness than E7 sx/sp.
Yes, I think "players" are usually so/sx, or the life of the party people that everybody knows (but with assertive type enneagram combined - E3, E7, E8). Because they spread their charm thin between as many people as possible. They're usually very easy to talk to and charming, but not really that intense, more like flighty and a bit superficial.
sx/so is the most intense imo and usually most crazy - flamboyant or even self distructive if you will (again, withdrawn E types are more contained when it comes to this intensity, it's not so outwardlly apparent at first sight. Sx/so is like scanning the environment for the person/interest that peaks your attention and then only paying attention to that person - it's like laser, not really spreading it thin, superficial charm.
These two are in my experience the hardest to tell apart, I can't really tell in a lot of cases. 4w5 are usually one or the other, but they're often very close. You have to find out by yourself which is your primary neurosis. I didn't really have that problem (once I properly understood what the stackings are all about), because mine are in very different ratios.
Different people can have really expressed one variant, and the second much lower, or the first two are almost the same. Or they can be all almost equal.that really affects how easy it is to figure a person and their instinctual variants out.
@The Martrix i don't think you're sx first.


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