Quote Originally Posted by silke View Post
most of my family is sp first and there is no preoccupation with morbidity that i've noticed in any of them, which is why i said that these don't seem to be related. likewise sex drive seems to be mostly physiological in its origin.
thanks for clarifying - this wasn't unfortunately exactly apparent from some of the instincts descriptions

the way i go about figuring out stackings is to try to remember everything that the person has said and done, generalize it into three categories and balance those out in my mind to see how they line up, but this approach is probably too Ni specific since intuition makes it easy generalize discrete behaviors like this.
yeah, this is Ni, I do the same up to the point of generalization - but making a generalization is where things get murky, cause I see too many possible Ne options behind each behaviour and thing said...

for additional questions what would you say is the biggest motivation behind the everyday actions of each of these people and how does this motivation align with the instincts? i find it to be very telling to figure out what is the primary need that they are trying to support, which is the 1st instinct, while how they go about it would be the secondary one.
I'll make it into a separate post of (hopefully more or less concise) additional descriptions in a moment.

with photos: you can also pm me and i'll try to line them up with the instinct composites that Galen has made. it's up to you, if you feel like it's still a breach of privacy then that's fine too.
yeah, thank you for the offer, this could actually be really interesting ...but I do think this would still be a breach of their privacy, so let's stay with descriptions

i would have said so/sp for this quote: it's acquisition of goods (sp) to support social status (so) or some other interests. typically people "juggle around" their secondary instinct to support of their first one, and this quote illustrates that kind of secondary flexibility in the sphere of sp. the first instinct is kind of rigid in nature in comparison to the second one, like a deep seated constant need that needs to be supported.
hmm I'm not certain which supports which in this statement regarding that person, the phrasing I used "- likes acquiring new high quality material goods (mostly due to personal interests but also partly linked with status)" was exactly how I observe this working in "Person 2". So for example this is a person that has a few particular interests and buys things in line with those interests and doesn't stay attached to those things - sells them to buy new things that finds interesting, does try to buy "the best available" only when the functionality of "the best available" is sth beneficial for the said interests and if it's sth that will be beneficial for longterm use. If along with this comes the fact that smn else thinks that they are an "expert" and own sth good then all the better. It's a person who says that would like to have a great car as a toy but in the end when faced with a decision buys a car that is useful and doesn't have the "wow" factor for other people. It is also someone who reports thinking like this though: after leaving the car in the parking lot looks around, scans other cars, looks back at this person's own car and thinks "Meh, dirty, but it'll do."

Quote Originally Posted by Elina View Post
I would actually say that Sx would like morbidity more than the other types. They're the ones that look for connection with people and are sometimes hopeless romantics which also means facing disappointment. Broken-heart love songs are Sx types domain.. if that's the kind of morbidity you mean. And while Sx is fixated on closeness, they're not actually as sexual as some of the other types (except for "with that one person") because they're too idealistic about relationships to fuck around.
I think I'm beginning to understand what the instincts are about and if indeed I'm beginning to grasp this, then the above would be a good description of sx-first.

However what I meant when I mentioned "morbidity" was sth along the lines images presented in this thread (-1-, -2-). And partially due to that thread I was associating sp with morbidity. I was quite literal with my understanding of the word.
I know "Person 6" likes art similar to presented below:
 






I'd say Soc/Sx is the stacking that's mostly likely to be the "charmer" and to like to be "the playa" and all as far as sex. Their attention is scattered and not focused on one person - that's the Soc, but they are good at making people feel an intimate atmosphere when one on one - that's the Sx.
this sounds like a good description of so/sx

I think this applies to "Person 2" to some extent. I find it difficult to discern whether this is so/sx or sx/so though. This is someone who is perceived as charming and enjoyed being perceived as a player and even enhanced this image by joking, while in fact didn't go further than let's call it "2nd base" (what a terrible expression) with a few people in this person's life. This is someone who was alone a lot of the time, looking for someone close. This person is faithful to their partner who is the only person this person had sex with. This person's acquaintances would have trouble believing it though. This is someone who had trouble deciding on longterm commitment in this person's relationship and said that this was difficult because this person needed to be sure that the decision was right, because this person knew that once this person decides to commit longterm then will be willing to do just about anything for their partner. To make it short - I think this is someone who created an illusion of being a player to cover up this person's idealism when it comes to finding "the one" and only a few people can see through this illusion.
Sometimes this person's attention is scattered and this is someone who can make other people feel good when one on one - this is also true.