Health comes in degrees.Originally Posted by Holon
Compulsive obsessions are mostly harmful and therefore mostly unhealthy. Being focused on romantic obsession, a "manic" love style does have a higher risk of going out of control and harming the person, aka becoming "unhealthy". However, that does not mean that it is "unhealthy" in general. We all have our little obsessions – unless they are not harmful to the individual themselves, or others, it is okay.
The same applies to romance styles.
Now, I personally would not see a strong indicator in the description of the Victim romance style that implies a "manic" love style. It is possible, but not inherently and always correlated – in my opinion.
Having said that, the Victim-Aggressor dynamic does have a higher risk of turning into a very harmful and unhealthy dynamic, similar to the "manic" love style. Nevertheless, the dynamic is not inherently "unhealthy". It is like saying Victim types are "unhealthy" by default, which is simply not true.
To summarize:
• Victim romance is neither inherently healthy or unhealthy, it depends on the individual's health and on that of their romantic partner
• Some Victims seem to swing the "manic love" way, but "manic love" is not limited to Victim types. In addition, this love style is not unhealthy by default, just like the Victim romance is not.
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