Quote Originally Posted by rosewood View Post
Dude (..?). You sound a bit affected by the whole complicated situation. You´re probably trying to turn LSI simple words and actions on all sides and filling in dots. My advice is to REALLY go dating others and check out on her somehow once in a while. This way you can also notice if what she´s offering you is really what you want. LSI is not complicated - really not any more complicated than a typical Aggressor (what´s been previously said here). But they don´t like insecurity, they admire independence - they judge via Se first and too much imbalance in the power dynamics can make them pull back. They respond well to a form of being attentive and accommodating to them ...in a self-assured and teasing way though. You just sitting there repressed and waiting for her while she's fucking another doesn't sound very healthy. Actually it would be a bit pathetic.

P.S. LSI ime doesn´t consciously want you to "be serious and prove your devotion.". They just process relational content more slowly. They may like seeing that you´re still into them as time goes by, but only if they are already emotionally hooked and invested in you. Otherwise the thought alone that someone's so devoted means nothing to them.

I appreciate your candor and honest opinion. Please understand though, for me to be feeling the depth of love and devotion I currently feel means that to me, going off and dating others while holding on to this "love/hope/will I spend my life with her" makes me feel unhealthy and pathetic. As such, I'm compelled to find a meaning in either course of action. If I am to be true to myself and express true devotion to her, I cannot just date another if the possibility she and I will be together still exists. Pathetic for some, deeply meaningful and fulfilling to me. I need closure, and I've communicated as such. She has begun to make concrete plans to move out of town together, and the time frame given me was about a year, as it involves leases and career changing. There have been real steps taken to assure me of her feelings. I'd just like to understand more from an LSI perspective how they would feel and think in such a situation.