Are SLEs/ESTps afraid of commitment?

[domino]

Tell me.

[JWC3]

No.

[Kalinoche buenanoche]

ppl commit when they r afraid

[TheWholeEnglish]

ppl commit when they r afraid

but r SLE afraid wen dey commit?

[Persephone]

This is not type related. Anyone can be afraid of commitments, depending on their childhood and/or emotional background.

[The Martrix]

Fear is a learned response, not inherently cognitive. SLEs can seem to be avoiding commitment, maybe. But they're naturally independent.

EDIT: 300 sorry!

[Amber]

SLE is probably the most typical avoidant attachment style of the whole socion. Unless they're very mature (age-wise), I guess.

[Aylen]

In my personal experience they are not only unafraid of commitment they tend to overcommit themselves to whatever they value most. Whether that is... a romantic relationship, family, an idea, career or remodeling the house. The ones I have been in long term relationships with took on more than their share of practical responsibilities without batting an eye. They also allowed me to take over things they weren't as interested, like shopping for their own wardrobe or choosing their hairstyle. Their commitment to hard labor astonishes me at times. They seem to thrive in certain physical conditions that would bring me to a grinding halt. There are times I would have rather laid down and died and they committed to making me get the fuck up and live. In my experience they can commit.

[lagerdemon]

It's definitely type-related, since all behavior is a manifestation of type and type is another name for the genetic code that determines behavior and committing is behavior and some types commit or don't commit, but never both. SLEs are afraid of commitment b/c long ago in a galaxy far far away alien programmers coded them to be afraid to commit so that in the distant future people could get their cars repaired in a timely manner.

[TheWholeEnglish]

It's definitely type-related, since all behavior is a manifestation of type and type is another name for the genetic code that determines behavior and committing is behavior and some types commit or don't commit, but never both. SLEs are afraid of commitment b/c long ago in a galaxy far far away alien programmers coded them to be afraid to commit so that in the distant future people could get their cars repaired in a timely manner.

Yes, bt u sed u wud commit 2 fix my car....??

[Kim]

No, not in my experience.

[Amber]

For those who don't know what she's talking about.... Anyway I dunno about afraid but I guess they're selective, being aristocratic, negativist, constructivist.

Well, "afraid" is an euphemism here. Ime they try to stay clear of bonds (healthy attachment forms) most of the time - I don't mean only romantic partners here. Even their relationship with their parents sometimes looked weird to me ("They say they love me. They are trying to manipulate my feelings and get me to check out on them more often."). I've never met a SLE in the Secure Attachment arena, with all its aspects - e.g. sees self positively, sees others positively. And still I agree with Aylen that they can admirably commit to a goal or a cause and show splendid determination.