Balance in and of itself is good.
But that still doesn't mean you can't learn how to actually communicate things and discuss things better so that these other people here don't react this way to you.
I think your skill at discussion can be improved - and that's something outside of socionics.
I think equating someone's functional ordering with competence is kind of foolish. How come Michael Jackson is one of the best dancers ever and yet he's IEI, and his dual is the

dominant person? Shouldn't that render Jackson incompetent at dancing?
I don't think you think about elements and functions in the best way, you're a bit too limiting.