Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
Again, you can use a dual as a crutch, but i don't think that's very healthy. You have to continue to learn and grow as a person ; it's about balance.

Furthermore, I don't think the situation you are in has much to do with duality or needing a dual to save you from the mess you created here.

"being able to answer questions logically and with evidence, as well as being able to listen to people and understand them, are skills that any type can develop"
Ask Rasputin how he was able to figure out my enneagram type, was it when he turned away and ignored me? Have you even read what my enneagram type says? I don't want you to address me, I don't care to hear you, I am sure one day, you will realize that what you are saying was out of something about me you couldn't see, that's right in front of you. I don't use people as crutches, I dual, I know when to back off and let my dual carry the load, and I know when my work is valuable...you don't. I don't need my dual to save me, I need my dual to COVER these points as I will happily and gladly cover their weakness...that's what makes them ONE. Real skills for you are easy...NOT so with me, again, you want me to do what you can...that is unreal, unreasonable and unnecessary.

If every person could do exactly what the next can then this system of duality would be false, unreal; I have news for you, it isn't unreal; it's very real.