9 SP - Preservation/Resources 9
Attention becomes fixated on secondary sources of gratification.
Nines have a habit of replacing essential wishes (needs) with unessential substitutes, such as too much food, too much TV, or elaborate hobbies or interests.
All nines have a tendency to replace essential goals with unessential substitutes, but self pres 9's can develop a voracious attachment to the replacement.
Preoccupied with physical comfort, maintaining habits and satisfying appetites.
A sense of personal security is associated with substitute, which is most commonly food, travel, TV, collecting.
Find immediate relief in zoning out on food or books/magazines/movies. Easily becomes a couch potato, vegging out with the newspaper, chips and a drink.
Store up a supply which clams them.
Collects things which are never used, but are there in case needed.
Cutting off a supply of the replacing substitute can feel life threatening because it represents the focal point of a holding patter that expends surplus energy in a predictable way.
An appetite for the substitute habitually appears when there is time and energy for a personal agenda.
Security minded 9's don't realizing they're shelving a personal agenda when they're gripped by an appetite like shopping fever. The rising interest in indulging an appetite doesn't feel lazy. It feels exhilarating. Something interesting to do that pulls you out of ambivalence even though it means a lack of commitment to yourself.
Strategy for getting along is to ask as little of life as possible.
Can have a love of the minimal and enjoy the repetition of known routines.
May be physically slow moving.
Consume food and drink for anesthesia.
May have large appetites or drug addictions.
Likes to collect objects and information. Sometimes has trouble throwing things away because they can't decide what really matters to them.
Appetite emphasis (in all matters, not just food, hunger can be satisfied but not appetite).
Very attached to rituals of watching TV, reading, working on the computer, sleeping long hours, going to movies, and so on. Feel anxious when anything interferes with routines.
Resignation is somaticized. Obesity is a passion. Tend to be big and have a paunch (or thin yet substantial with 1 wing emphasis on health). Focused on wants of this world. "I eat therefore I am". Is a yearning for love. Feeding and having instead of being. Economic values, bankers, economist, creature comforts. Like a steamroller, more aggressive but doesn't know it. Certain unawareness of others.
Pleasant easy going 9. Doesn't ask much from life. Built for comfort not speed. Simple pleasures-that can be relied upon. "The best surprise is no surprise". Slow inertia. Difficulty in mobilizing self on what really matters. Focus instead on comforts. Compensation for stuffing real desires. Sloth-take what comes along. Believe they can't get what they really want. Zone out in chairs. Least ambitious but often talented. Dry sense of humor. Comfortable, no hassles.. Puttering, routines, busy work. Pleasant complacent mood. Unhealthy prone to addictions, predilection to additions/overweight. Apathetic. Couch potato.
With 1 wing can have emphasis on health matters. Thinner. Holistic approach. Obsessive about health foods, herbal remedies. Metaphysical orientation.
The self pres 9 wanted this study to reveal they felt much stronger than Enneagram authors described them, as they do not go without their essential needs in life. They did however, explain that they were usually unwilling to be in a conflict to have their needs met. The stated that they would say "okay" and then privately make sure they got whatever it was they wanted, describing this as the power of patience, persistence, and resistance. Many of them were reluctant to share this aspect of their survival strategy because it went against their image of being the kind and loving peacemaker. Nevertheless, they wanted to break the stereotype of being percieved as the "non-person", clarifying that outwardly they may be soft but that on the inside they were hard as nails.
Can have a strong connection to 6. When appetites won't be satiated, tends to focus on feelings of fear and doubt about needs ever being met.
Everything metaphysical has to become a physical instead of being theoretical. Holistic methods/medicine. Yoga. Health foods, herbal remedies etc. "Heal yourself through the earth".
Value resides in belief that what is to be had is in the real world.
Talks a lot-occupy space by talking. Talk to fill a void.
Invasive. Overwhelms through good intentions "are you hungry?"
Goes along with the program outwardly, secretly makes sure all essential needs are met.
Will not go without food or comfort for long.
9 SX - Sexual/Feeling 9
Union is the desire to completely merge oneself with a mate.
Total merger with a partners inner agenda.
Unite, Melt, or merge with significant others.
Finding personal identity through taking on the life of another's as their own.
Nines can absorb another's life into their own.
"We are the same being"
Personal goals are surrendered in favor of the needs of another such that the beloved emerges as the focalizer of life.
Get lost in other person.
Thoughts and feelings seem synonymous rather than separate.
Union is the sense of living a mutual life rather than an individual one.
Union is the sense of mutual existence rather than being a separate individual.
The reactions of the pair are so merged that the partnership could be described as "inseparable"
Union provides focus and energy. Lazy about their own direction. Nines' partners can focalize effort and become the reason for being.
Can be listless and sluggish when not involved.
Feelings of being overlooked and disregarded vanish in a psychologically undivided state.
Focused on an ideal of romantic union.
Perceive the feelings of others more clearly than their own, clairsentient, and physically sense exactly what the other loved on is going through.
Psychic connections very astute.
Make their partner happy and become happy themselves through the reflection of this happiness.
The preoccupation can also extend to an absorbing wish to unite with the divine.
High expectations of partner.
Prone to jealousy.
Can also deny partner's flaws and idealize them to stay in union.
Another scenario involved multiple relationships. Searching for a fused connection.
Sound melancholy sometimes like 4's.
Can't decide between 2 people sometimes (triangulation).
Can be fickle because easily disappointed.
Difficult for them to leave a relationship because it's like leaving themselves.
Union (much more merging beyond sex) Spiritual unions.
I like the feeling of being in union with a lover, family member, friend, mentor, famous person, guru, pet, nature, or the divine.
When not in a relationship, melancholy yearning to be in one.
Sweet and shy. Gain a sense of being through the other. Alpha/Omega. Union/fusion. Contact allows the awareness of difference.
Can't create a space where there are differences, so no individuation. Lack of freedom to be oneself.
Becomes lost in others. Lose tension. Merge with those who have qualities like aggressive types. Living vicariously through others. Merge with one more vital-mine by association-want others to rub off on them. Idealize others-security. Seek a complete partnership. Romantic can resemble 4's. Can become critical and demanding if others let them down. Other becomes center of gravity.
Compliments and insults to other are equal to self. No individualization. Central object relations. Cinderella Wishful thinking.
Unhealthy-disassociation, depressed, lack of sense of self. Self functioning of past relationship. Reversion back to ideal union. Deep fantasy breaks.
The sexual 9 wanted to explain the experience of merging. They felt it was important to note that it happens automatically without their conscious intent, and as they become the other, the tension dissolves. It is only through merging with others that they can begin to discover who they are and what they want. First they merge and then they begin to say, "me, not me". It is only through the process of union that they find out what is "not me" and discover "me". They can fight for loved ones as "compliments and insults directed toward those with whom they have merged are felt as if directed toward them".
Often can only feel a sense of self with the desired other.
When totally merged with the other, has difficulty determining where self ends and the other begins.
I need time alone to discover who I am.
Contain someone's energy-merge until reason not to-invalidation.
Merges with other to discover self. Who am I?
9 SO - Social/Community 9
Social 9's gravitate toward groups and then have conflicts about joining or staying apart.
Social 9's are inclined to join groups and to attend on a regular basis without making a full inner commitment. The question stays open. Ambivalence is constant.
9's are either totally averse to joining groups, often expressing their ongoing search for personal goals with the inner question "Do I belong here or not?"
Some social 9's stay basically uninvolved but hang out on the groups edge.
There is an attraction to the energy of people doing something together, which provides a pleasant distraction but also provides a constant background of energy that the 9 can dip in and out of.
Can enjoy group energy and interests but may be also aware of the group's expectation. These the 9 will both play along with and resist.
High energy feelings are molded and contained by familiar group activities. A defined activity presents goals, procedures and an ongoing timetable that demand a predictable expenditure of energy. You know what you are going to do, how long it will last, and who will be there.
Gravitate toward groups with meetings and agendas that allow members to participate at a low level of energy and take responsibility and leadership when they have energy to burn.
Participate in group activities can be comforting way to feel included and loved.
It can also be the place of greatest laziness for social 9 because the energy that could be spent in meeting personal agenda is shunted instead of taking part in social activities.
High energy feelings can be molded and contained by the requirements of group activity. A defined activity presents goals, procedures and an ongoing timetable that demand predictable expenditure of energy.
Groups are often structured with meetings and agendas that allow members to participate at a low level of energy, or to assume responsibility and leadership when they have energy to burn
Gregarious but may start resit being heavily influenced, to compensate for their sense of lost identity.
Can sometimes resent how the group doesn't really see them.
May fixate on what others think of them
May resent the group and may make fun of it.
When immersed in a group. social 9's can lose themselves, trying to become all things to all people.
Participation (careful to avoid the center, don't want to get really involved)
Community emphasis on participation.
Frequently there is a lot of activity.
May get caught up in roles-stronger connection to 3.
In addition to wanting to further causes, I join groups in order to structure my time, to soak up energy and become enlivened, to see how I can best fit in, and to discover where to direct myself.
Participation comes from group. Being a part of and bonded to a group. More gregarious. Desire to be something bigger. Narrow view-local, peasant mentality. Doesn't go beyond limits (the hobbit).
Avoids conflicts. Participating withdrawn type. Tries to go along with plans. Likes to be involved with others. Don't like expectations placed on them. Doesn't want to be overloaded. Mediators. Balance interests. Most passive-aggressive. Difficulty saying no. What is expected of conscious of others opinions of them. Want to be respected. Afraid of not blending in. Anxious about losing identity. Participate from fringe. Fear of embarrassment-ruled by need to protect oneself from embarrassment. Difficult separating goals from social milieu. Can be scattered and disenchanted. Resigned and depressed. Neediness masked by emotional flatness. Doesn't want center stage.
Social 9's did not feel slothful and often strongly identified with 3's because they were "very busy" and constantly on the go with lots of energy. However, they described their energy as dispersed and diffused without being focused on a single goal. Some felt that they were w workaholics and didn't sleep much at all. The more extroverted social 9's stated that they "belonged to groups to find themselves through connection and shared interest with others." Nevertheless they were reluctant to take on too much responsibility to avoid conflict. They would rather be a member of the board of directors than be in charge. The social 9 felt universally connected to everything and had the most difficult deciding on a type.
Interest tend to be diverse to minimize time invested in one area.
Can be very active in groups or social causes.
8 SP - Preservation/Resources 8
Eights focus on control of the mechanics of personal survival and space.
Often grow up poor or struggling. Food, home, money may be crucial.
Stronger connection to 5.
A preoccupation with protecting the home and making sure there are always generous supplies of basic comforts.
These are the survivalists. People who secure a personal bunker against invasion, who want a place that can't be gotten to and possessions that can't be touched.
Maintaining order and material security are important.
Hiding and presiding over their castle.
The security of familiar surroundings, of knowing that your dinner, your cat, and your current book are within easy reach. You can relax when you feel physically satisfied.
They fear being deprived, lacking necessities, being out in the rain alone. They therefore develop an elaborate supply system so they'll never be in need; food clubs, a competent laundry, a hardware store that stocks absolutely everything.
It's not important to hoard, but when survival lust comes on, they know exactly where to go.
Can be materialistic and feel deserving about it. More often have a 7 wing.
Satisfaction depends on having the simple, uncomplicated necessities of life.
A preoccupation with the control of survival needs replaces the search for essential needs.
Tend to value things over people.
The fear of deprivation fosters a preoccupation with comfort. "Where is my pen, my comfortable shoes". The discomfort might escalate.
They can't bear it when details aren't "just so". Today somebody forgets to buy toothpaste tomorrow the whole system may collapse.
If someone else has moved the shoes, it can feel like invasion. A domino effect where unpredictable events could escalate. If it's the shoes now, what next?
Sometimes domineering toward those within their sphere.
Might preach an ethic of selfishness.
Justify their bullying of intimates as necessary to "toughen them up" for the hard world outside.
Survivalist mentality. Life is a jungle, only the strong survive.
Territorial imperative.
"I feel safer when I sit where I can observe everything going on in a room"
"I try to make certain that no one will sneak up or intrude upon me".
Satisfactory survival (not just any kind of survival; pushing, grabbing, ordering, controlling).
Singularly directed. Hardness/indifference. Machiavellian. Intolerance to frustration. Use whatever is needed to get needs met. Can't wait. Anti-social.
5 like desire for privacy. Less feeling, less expressive, and less visible.
Extremely territorial of personal emphasis and/or relationships. Direct hardness, toughness.
Life as struggle, no nonsense 8's Workaholic. Money and power to insure well being of self and loved ones. Control over immediate environment. King or Queen of the castle. Regulate my environment, lustful control of environment. Dominate intimates to toughen them up. It's a jungle out there. Control or resources. I have the purse strings. Dominate animal in pack. Materialistic/money for power. Symbols of power; castles, cars for impact. Fortification, legacy. Symbols of triumph. Monuments to immortality. This is my place in history. Domestic, home bodies. Income to feel satisfied. Territorial about personal belongings. Where is my stuff...is it safe. Selfish, justified, goes after needs. Bullying, threats.
The self pres 8 wanted to clarify that "no one even knows I am around unless you step on my toes". They felt an affinity with 5 and expressed a strong desire for privacy. They described their main issue as "do not control me" and "you will not control me". It's is not unlike 5 as the tendency is to be more reserved and to observe, unless anything in their territory is challenged. Then "you wake a sleeping bear, claws and all". Shifting from one extreme to another. "The warrior ready for battle" This 5 like privacy was a fear of being limited and controlled.
Often feel empowered by each experience of survival.
Passion for privacy and own space. Free of intrusions. More 5ish.
Not to be at the mercy of others.
8 SX - Sexual/Feeling 9
Eights act out lust in the one to one arena by a possessive attitude toward intimates and friends.
Every aspect of intimate life cries out for exploration. 8's want to know all.
Possession denotes access to the body, mind, and spirit of the mate whenever desire arises.
Lust or excess is acted to by controlling the nature of the way in which the couple relates to each other.
All the secrets have to be shared.
They want to advise, to be consulted, and to take part in decisions.
Surrender involves fully possessing the loyalty and affections of a mate who will not put you at a disadvantage.
Want stability, loyalty, and predictability in close relationships.
Are prepared to return devotion when they have the feeling that their partner is equal to them and will not exploit this position of power.
Can love deeply, have a genuine close-up interest in and concern for spouse.
Since life is dangerous they want to choose close allies carefully.
Attached to the idea of being able to trust completely.
8's want to posses the heart and mind of the mate.
May feel easily betrayed and are prone to suspicion.
Lots of testing of their partners motives. If they pass the tests then the 8 relaxes.
Can lead to a need to dominate and control partner.
Can get codependent, jealous, hooked into the other.
Partners every move is (over)reacted to.
Sometimes can't let go.
Proud of their toughness and are the most rebellious of all types.
Sexual 8's are one of the highest energy positions on the diagram. A combination of physical verve and an inclination toward domination makes them lusty in love and commanding in business.
Can be seen as relentless competitors.
Often in conflict about wanting a partner who needs to be taken care of versus wanting one they respect and who will stand his or her ground against them.
One way to get on their bad side is to neglect to consult them or ask their opinion about a matter that directly or indirectly involves them.
Attracted to people who are direct and who are not allergic to confrontation.
Possession/surrender (need for total domination or willingness to give up all control).
Couple emphasis on possession/surrender.
The will to posses the other- to take hold. Dominance and surrender. The preying mantis. Surrender your values. "Put your butt on the line". Full involvement. Lack of limits. Can be anti-social and narcissistic. Sadistic and phallic narcissistic (entitlement).
Motto is "I have a right to have my way" more emotional than the other 2 subtypes.
Taking charge, takes charge in relationships. Parental role in one to ones. Bestower of protection. Need some say in what's happening in others life. Likes withdrawn types. Wanting to mold the other. Deeply loving-devoted. Intimacy is a struggle for control. Disinterested if they win the other too easily. Intensity. Adrenalin. Impatient in too much loyalty. Consistency however is important. Possessive. Competitive-thrill in competition. Push. Stimulating to win. Urge to imprint self on others. Jealous, possessive, abusive, crimes of passion.
The sexual 8 felt under represented in most descriptions of 8. They saw themselves as very devoted to those they loved and desired equality in relationship. Someone that could match them, stand up to thenm, and more importantly for them, so they could surrender control. "If I can control someone, they are weak, I can't count on anyone that is weak". They did however, understand that their partners might feel controlled. They explained that hey felt they had surrendered tot he person they loved, and therefore were at their mercy. For the 8 to share anything of intimacy is to make themselves incredibly vulnerable, and to give anyone the power to hurt them, which is potentially devastating. They further added how incongruent it felt to simultaneously need autonomy and connection. For how does one stay connected and remain autonomous.
Intimacy is feeling safe enough to "freely" surrender control, by freely possessing the love of their mate.
Provoked by unspoken messages-threats to trust and intimacy.
A desire for "equality" in intimate relationships to be able to give up control (someone strong enough to "push up against", who can stand firm, withstand the anger, and allow the hidden vulnerability to emerge.)
8 SO - Social/Community 8
A lust for friendship and camaraderie.
For 8's friendship is the trust extended to those whom you protect and by whom you are protected.
Friendship is a way of relating through tested alliance; when someone is on your side, you can trust them to hear you out.
Loyal to a group and conceive of friendship as a pact of mutual protection.
Friendship is based on mutual regard and common purpose.
Feelings of vulnerability can surface with those few who have demonstrated their ability to hold their ground and who can assert control in an honorable way.
Let their feelings out within a close group.
Want everyone to benefit; group's cohesion and welfare is most important to them.
Want everyone to be happy and to have no cause for doing injustice to one another.
Can try out different viewpoints by entertaining a friend's opinion.
Often oriented to family.
Hold themselves accountable to other.
May be the group's protector or provider.
Can be outstanding leaders who hold the community together and let the weaker members rely on them for support.
Emphasis on cooperation.
They cultivate friendships and are always ready to give their friends the shirt off their back.
When healthy they are aggressively blustery but will back down and apologize when they've been unfair. More able to say "I was wrong".
Stronger connection to 2, can emotionally switch places with others in their chosen group.
Could be hostile toward anyone outside who threatens group.
Tests their friends for their loyalty. Once trust is firmly established, they usually stay in friendships for life.
When in group, focuses on who else has power in order to maintain their authority.
Love the excitement of a righteous struggle for the truth or fairness.
Friends/enemies (world percieved in black and white, champion of the people, largess).
Smiling, more friendly, appears generous. Survival through alliances. Seduction covers a desire for advantage through association. Friendship bonds cover lust for power. Overwhelms out of selfishness. Narcissistic, temptation easy. Can look like cp6 but are body centered, more instinctual.
Gusto, camaraderie. Letting loose, lavishness, generous. Host social events for inner circle. Holds court. Center of attention. The Big Cheese, others hang on every word. Honor, trust, bonds. Blood brothers. Make pacts with those who have proven self to 8's. I'll die for you. Test limits and boundaries of intimates to feel safe in friendships. Talkative, politics, sports. Seeks friends that allow them to be themselves. Anti-social, can be rejecting, cut friends off. Easily feel betrayed. Hold grudges. Full of promises, big plans and schemes. Bull-[blocked due to guideline #4 violation] artists. Anti-social loners. Reckless self destruction against society.
The social 8 felt in groups as though they were too much and too loud. They saw themselves much more 2 like and felt the need to clamp down their energy so as to not offend others, which felt very restricting. They described it as being akin to being in a trash compactor. It went against their core because it felt like pretense but the need to belong to a group was still great. The social 8 also described survival through friendship. "I must have people I can count on to survive, so I'm going to collect resourceful people". Further stating they have many strategic alliances to insure their survival.
Will often leap to the defense of a friend they feel is wronged.
The basic fear of the social 8 is of having intentions misconstrued in a group setting.
Seeks companionship with "equals or co-conspirators"-does not have to be the same, just "equal". Someone that doesn't have to be taken care of.
May shrink self to match energy of others in order to fit in.
Will intentionally be somewhat appropriate to prevent vulnerability but still non-compliant. "How far can I go?"
Desire for respect, recognition, and distinction within the group.
Feel the need to pull energy into the trash compactor in order not to overwhelm, be too loud, inappropriate, etc.
1 SX - Sexual/Feeling 1
Sexual jealousy is acted out in an angry, possessive way.
Anger that feels like fire.
A white hot rage that seizes their guts if a relationship is threatened.
A threat to sanctioned pleasure is maddening. "How dare you take what's rightfully mine!"
1's have difficulty recognizing what they want and in allowing themselves to have pleasure, that any threat to gratification feels like losing a lifeline.
You've earned the right to be loved. You deserve sexual pleasure. You're angry to being compared to a rival.
If you have been perfect there would be no contest.
This is anger directed to those who take what the want without necessarily deserving it.
This is permissible anger, based on the misconduct of associates or a mate.
The focal point is fidelity, but jealousy extends far beyond a sexual agreement. You can be jealous of people who get promoted, whose ideas are taken more seriously, who are popular at work.
There is a need to feel right. You work hard at it and feel jealous when you're not validated.
Saying "I deserve recognition" or "You should have paid attention to me" feels safer than "I want" or "I need".
It is unthinkable to reach out openly and take what you want; but in cases of misconduct, "this has to be stopped" replaces the forbidden thought "I want to have".
Monitoring the mates actions and of critically judging whatever comes between the self and the mate. Once a genuine connection has been made, any threat from the outsider feels as if a lifeline is being cut.
When desire for another can be honestly felt, any interference brings up intense possessiveness.
Partner idealized.React with jealous judgment if their beloved acts in less-than-ideal ways.
Try to control partner. Watch every step and fear that others might be more attractive to their partners. Inside they boil with jealousy and fear loss, but are unable to admit and express this imperfect feeling. The jealousy comes from the fear that another could be more perfect.
Jealousy quickly becomes possessive. You can't drop it.
You have to check up, you must go see, you have to know exactly who said what to whom. You want names and dates. You want confrontation. The rival shouldn't be here.
Obsessively comparing themselves with others.
Likes the intensity of being fully and passionately engaged with another person.
Jealousy (rivalry centered around perfection; explosive expression or total repression of criticalness)
Sex with anger/jealousy. Takes sexual energy into zeal. A passion to do things right, to give brilliance to one's being. A passion for being righteous and to do something perfectly. The true reformer.
Can appear 8ish and assertive. More unconventional and most free of the 1's to show anger. Criticism is directed outward. Can have sadistic fantasies.
May be possessive and jealous of mate and very self critical in comparing self against potential rival for mate; also angry and resentful of others who just take what they want.
Shared standards. Idealization of partnership. Desire to find perfect person. "Till death do us part". Expect partner, family, friend, to be perfect-common set on standards. Disappointment when others don't measure up, so they must push others to share their standards. Proper-fears others will fall short. Emphasis on fidelity. Constant fears of abandonment. Even with others feels lonely. Don't spoil our perfection. Difficult to justify sexual instinct need. Idealized mate to fully express intimacy. Constant checking on-where were you? Accounting for others' time. Undermine others so that they are needed. Erupt out of control. The other causes me to be obsessed. Pushing self on others. Purge desire nature. Idealization. Platonic-pure relationships. Virginal withholding.
The sexual 1 had the strongest identification with 4. The felt they need to have the perfect mate, and the idealized relationship. The sexual 1 went on to explain that the sanctity of having perfect love gave a real sense of brilliance, alivenesses, and freedom. However any violation to an intimate relationship was devastating, generating the white hot heat of humiliation and feeling of despair. The sexual 1 saw themselves as more powerful than the other 1's describing an 8 like accessibility to anger when they knew they were right or felt violated.
Feeling of being cleansed and freed with the expression of repressed anger.
Response when entering or during a relationship is the belief that I am hopelessly flawed and imperfect and unworthy of the other, who is idealized--attribute to the other a perfection that the other could not possibly have and short-change myself. This belief is what generates that insecurity, jealousy and possessiveness.
Can be supportive and forgiving, as well as forbearing. Patient and even playful and joking with other are part of the idealized connection.
1 SO - Social/Community 1
Anger can be legitimately expressed through religious fervor, political outrage, idealogical correctness, theoretical correctness.
Your position in a group is defined by uncompromising opinions.
you've found the right ideological platform and are entrenched in the tenets of a perfect ideal. Now you're sure.
Once you take a position, it can be remarkably difficult to absorb new information. May resist new factual information for fear of it swaying their opinion.
Often inflexible in opinion. "I'm not wrong, you don't understand what we're talking about"
Deliberate, careful and are thorough in forming opinions and can see no reason to change anything, especially at the suggestion of others.
Non adaption-rigidity and the "passion to be right-to call the other one wrong".
Self righteous-the world must adjust to me.
Teachy-Preachy.
Controlling with ideology. Critical.
Social-Reforming impulse. Crusader. Believe they represent a standard and represent that standard (everyone else is missing the mark).
Scolding in social arena-interest in writing, politics, journalism, theoretical ideologies.
Exposing wrong doing, speak against moral or theoretical imperatives.
Defined by own opinions.
Tell others not to take their criticism personally, but take criticism by others very personally themselves.
Indignant anger, masked by correctness and righteousness..
With 9 wing can be extremely stubborn.
Feels misunderstood when others do not get their ideals. "They don't get me, I KNOW what I'm talking about". Can result in a sulking 4ish presentation in lower average levels.
Can mistype as 4 especially with strong feeling preference and a non-traditional theoretical orientation.
Difficult to convince of type (if wrong) due to strong superego messages preventing wrongness from being accepted.
Can seem like 5's with a strong thinking orientation.
The social 1 focused on the group as an opportunity to express and share a vision. Initially they would join a group to have this vision manifest. Nevertheless when they were in the group they would start self limiting for fear of making an error or saying some thing wrong. They described a conflict of feeling restricted by the group and resentment that the vision was still unexpressed. The frustration surfaced when the idea of having an opportunity to share their ideals, wisdom and vision had to be negated to comply and belong to the group.
Efforts were then turned to negating the ideas of others and reframing the norms of the group to fit more wholly into their notion of what is right.
Bolder in writing or documents, the probing eye is avoided. I am free to state my claims. The judgment is avoided when they can hide behind a pulpit.
Personal presentation can sometimes lack the passion of their proclaimed ideas. Can seem like 5's.
Statements of fact that are based on little objective data that are backed up feverishly.
Heated anger at being called out or errors being revealed.
Knowledge sometimes without the data to support findings.
A strong need to support their position so as to not be seen as wrong.
Inability to state fault or wrongness, especially in regards to theories, treatises or ideas.
Nonadaptive, but often with unexpressed anger. A need to be seen as caring and empathetic with the good of all in consideration with a simultaneous back hand at the "idiocy" of others.
Feeling of being a lone wolf. The only one with the key to the prize.
Gray areas are eliminated through logic or self righteous intuitive understandings.
A tendency to try to embody the ideal of what they have stated is the ideal. "A good congressman acts like I do, if you don't think or act this way then you aren't a real congressman".
Difficult to sway.
Words like "wrong", "incorrect", "misinformed" and other critical words are common in speech and writing.
Feeling of sermon on the mount, but fear of being judged so hiding can ensue.
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