As an EIE, I was extremely uncomfortable being naked for many many years. I don't know if it is type related, or being raised in an extreme christian fundamentalist family or both. It wasn't until I had enough experience (quite a few years) and genuine positive feedback before I became comfortable with being naked. Now I"m not a nudist or anything, but I have no issues with being naked or being seen naked.
As for the "victim" mentality in terms of relationships and BDSM, I don't have a simple answer. I definitely find myself most stimulated by a strong resilient partner who can provide a sense of back and forth in terms of power and control. I was in a relationship with someone with which we did play around with BDSM a little bit (She was INFp), but she was completely submissive and it wasn't fulfilling for me. I am drawn to someone whose submission I earn, and who can earn it from me. I don't know if that makes sense, it's like playing a competitive board game. If your opponent is terrible it's usually a boring game. I lost desire to play around with BDSM with her, but found I still had occasional BDSM fantasies involving an LSI.
I don't mean to cast relationships or sex into a form of competition, I don't want to give the wrong idea, but like dancing- somebody has to lead.
Hope that helps...



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