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    Ok...so I did that. Wrote a long ass email, every advice I've sought out from friends and family have all basically said the same thing...and it just felt right. So I sent one stating everything I thought, felt, and that he's worth it etc. Basically the points mentioned above in my own way. So...we shall see.
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    HAHA I havent felt anything negative yesterday and today as far as IEI-guy goes...so I think that was a temporary negativity-outburst, which I havent had today...but felt I needed.

    I am full of shit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ESTP View Post
    HAHA I havent felt anything negative yesterday and today as far as IEI-guy goes...so I think that was a temporary negativity-outburst, which I havent had today...but felt I needed.

    I am full of shit.
    Well aren't you just so fucking lucky. I'm getting drunk, and seeing my friend.

    My emotions in general feel all over the fucking place. And I get kind of negative at times, and then try and cover up with positive things. And so I can talk about the positive things to blank out all the negative things.

    AND YOU HAVEN'T EVEN FELT ANYTHING NEGATIVE.

    So you should feel fortunate. You're like nice and stable and you have .. an IEI .. that doesn't want a relationship .. which at least is a grounded concept.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mercutio View Post
    Well aren't you just so fucking lucky. I'm getting drunk, and seeing my friend.

    My emotions in general feel all over the fucking place. And I get kind of negative at times, and then try and cover up with positive things. And so I can talk about the positive things to blank out all the negative things.

    AND YOU HAVEN'T EVEN FELT ANYTHING NEGATIVE.

    So you should feel fortunate. You're like nice and stable and you have .. an IEI .. that doesn't want a relationship .. which at least is a grounded concept.
    how is that not negative??
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    Quote Originally Posted by krae View Post
    o, blueprints for the people who'd like to modify their natural behaviour

    I'm not a "controlling super alpha male" so I'm chickening out of this topic
    ahhaha thanks for the heads up??
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    yan know estp... you remind me of something..

    when i was young, i went through this period of time that i used to kind of "give lectures" on how people should behave towards me. so that they know, and have no excuse to be oblivious.

    not everyone responded positively. although some people - it's like i only had to say a little, and it's like they could complete. or they could show understanding in a way, so that i didn't have to say. which would shortcut, and then i wouldn't have to bother.

    now the thing is,

    there are certain behaviours i expect people to have. and i don't always voice them, but sometimes, i get irritated or agitated when people keep acting the wrong way, and i feel like i have to say how they should behave.

    now, this brings into account more than one problem. some people don't ilke adapting their behaviour to others. and some people find it hard to change their behaviour too quickly, and need time.

    oh, and three, you know it's a pain in the ass having to go to all this work. and it's so much easier when relations are open/honest/easy/familiar etc, you know what to expect, what will happen etc. and then when people act "strange", or in a way you're unfamiliar with there'll be a kind of automatic reaction of "what is that about".

    anyway for me when i get comfortable with someone, i drop lots of words. it's like i don't want to say "how are you" to anyone that i'm too familar with because then they'll just be like "i'm very well" or like "i'm pregnant, the baby is due any moment now".

    you know, cos it's like either, you do the whole fake "yes i am very, and how are you" and it's like obviously superficial and overdone. or it'll be like - say some bullshit thing that obviously isn't true.

    but then it's like if you're not so familiar only a few people will try saying something silly. and i suppose a lot of people give a kind of half-phased "i'm okay".

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    Quote Originally Posted by krae View Post
    I'm not a "controlling super alpha male" so I'm chickening out of this topic
    I don't think "controlling" is the key word but "confident".
    If I would have to guess about how to become this (I'm not) I would say... improved physical abilities like: power, stamina, flexibility combined with a dash of "f*ck them all" carelessness... Kinda like stepping into the dance ring and doing your moves not caring what people think, just having fun...
    "What is love?"
    "The total absence of fear," said the Master.
    "What is it we fear?"
    "Love," said the Master.

    I chose Love

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    Merc...those lectures on how to behave with me...is for people who express a need for guidance for the most part, unless they step on a stupid-stone...then I will smak them up-side the head and put them back on the right track.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ESTP View Post
    Ok...so I did that. Wrote a long ass email, every advice I've sought out from friends and family have all basically said the same thing...and it just felt right. So I sent one stating everything I thought, felt, and that he's worth it etc. Basically the points mentioned above in my own way. So...we shall see.
    ! Oh, i'm so happy that you did that. I was just coming here to tell you that I still thought you should tell him. I hope it works out <3.
    IEI, sp/sx 4w3.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ESTP View Post
    Ok...so I did that. Wrote a long ass email, every advice I've sought out from friends and family have all basically said the same thing...and it just felt right. So I sent one stating everything I thought, felt, and that he's worth it etc. Basically the points mentioned above in my own way. So...we shall see.
    Not sure how I missed this until now, but based on more recent things you've said on my thread, I assume he stood by his initial stance?

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