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    Default How to meet/recognize/seduce an ESTp

    Hahah...



    Come on, I really want know.
    Being an INFp and all.
    I threw away a chance to be with this one ESTp, which I totally regret now I gave him up to be with an ENFp! Dumb me.

    He was very into me at the time. And now afterwards, it seems he still does extremely caring things, etc. but is very distant. However, I've really begun to realize what a great person he is and I've started to like him a lot. Trouble is, I'm not sure whether he will like me again, or still does. I don't really think so, at this point.

    So how would I go about trying to rekindle this flame... or should I just give up and try meeting other ESTps? Heh..

    And how.


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    Can't you just invite him over to dinner? Tsssss... how difficult can it be?
    “I have never tried that before, so I think I should definitely be able to do that.” --- Pippi Longstocking

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    That would be awkward. I'm only 16


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    Herzy: do ESTPs have a hard time... moving backwards... like in the first post here?
    MAYBE I'LL BREAK DOWN!!!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Herzy
    Quote Originally Posted by Rocky
    Herzy: do ESTPs have a hard time... moving backwards... like in the first post here?
    When you mean "moving backwards," do you mean going back to old interests that have been gone for a while?
    Yeah.
    MAYBE I'LL BREAK DOWN!!!


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    It just makes me sad because I might never have a chance with him again... and he was perfect. Hindsight is 20/20!

    I think he may have a dormant interest though. He admitted a couple months back that he still liked me -- but that he was "confused" about a lot of things.

    A lot of people say he is uncharacteristically nice to me. I thought he was like that to everyone, but now that I think about it, it's true. He "protects" me in a lot of ways and makes sure I'm okay.

    The thing is, I'm scared to try and pursue anything because I know I hurt him a lot. And I am not sure how willing he is to run the risk of that again.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    That would be awkward. I'm only 16
    McDonalds or Burger King will do just fine, although not as romantic. Check with his friends, perhaps he likes Wendy's better...
    “I have never tried that before, so I think I should definitely be able to do that.” --- Pippi Longstocking

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    Buy him a foot ball and present it to him in the nude.

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    Buy him a foot ball and present it to him in the nude.
    Did you do that? Just curious.
    I would. He'd die I'm pretty sure.

    I didn't really need to seduce him all that much, he was just plain into me. I made the first move though by holding his hand. And the first kiss was kind of...looking at each other and like "OMG WE NEED TO KISS GRAWR" (in our heads) and we just kissed at the same time, no one went first or anything.

    After that things went pretty fast, but I was competely comfortable with it, and he didn't do anything until I gave the sign that I wanted him to. He was polite ^_^

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall
    I was probably 15 at the time. He may have not been ESTp (maybe ENTp?). I actually did think he was attractive, (though I would never have said it) but I showed no interest because one of my friends really liked him & he was an ass and said some stuff about her to her face... yeah, bad move for him!!

    Sounds gross, bleck

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    That would be awkward. I'm only 16

    Girl, you've got a lot of time. You'll have plenty of oppertunities to find Mr. Right. Don't get to caught up on one guy.
    Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
    If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by UDP II
    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    That would be awkward. I'm only 16

    Girl, you've got a lot of time. You'll have plenty of oppertunities to find Mr. Right. Don't get to caught up on one guy.
    Oh, come on lol, what do you expect? I'm a hopeless INFp


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    (edited, because I was being too uncompromising.)

    ...

    Oh, come on lol, what do you expect? I'm a hopeless INFp
    Yes, I understood that from the beginning.

    As for your situation, ScarlettLux, I'm sure it will work out. You're cute enough to get a guy's attention.

    But I still stand by what I said.
    Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
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    So ... any answers on my original questions?

    Mostly, I just want to know how to tell if someone is ESTp.. like what are the strong initial signs? And how to initally attract them.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    So ... any answers on my original questions?

    Mostly, I just want to know how to tell if someone is ESTp.. like what are the strong initial signs? And how to initally attract them.

    Ugh ask Herzy to PM you on how.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Herzy
    what
    Well, you are ESTp and are good at knowing what an ESTp wants, in a gender neutral way even. And you're good at typing up the descriptions.

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    I wish I could help you

    I tried to get away from my ESTp at first, but no one says no to an ESTp.

    All I did was act uninterested, because I was.
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    Confidence, breasts, intelligence I'd imagine, wittiness...
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    Okayyy... lol. Bad situation -- ESTps DON'T like taking care of people right? *sigh* I think I'm too much of a person that needs to be taken care of. I think he's quite annoyed with my behaviour recently. I'd rather not get into it, but yeah.


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    <Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is and not

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    old thread!
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    not enough info!

    grrr
    <Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is and not

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    Quote Originally Posted by thePirate View Post
    not enough info!

    grrr
    agreed!
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    what an old post to bump

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    Hahah...



    Come on, I really want know.
    Being an INFp and all.
    I threw away a chance to be with this one ESTp, which I totally regret now I gave him up to be with an ENFp! Dumb me.

    He was very into me at the time. And now afterwards, it seems he still does extremely caring things, etc. but is very distant. However, I've really begun to realize what a great person he is and I've started to like him a lot. Trouble is, I'm not sure whether he will like me again, or still does. I don't really think so, at this point.

    So how would I go about trying to rekindle this flame... or should I just give up and try meeting other ESTps? Heh..

    And how.
    I know so so so many. Send me a PM of where you live. I'm sure, being spontaneous as they are, they would love to fly to see you.

    Easy, learn to VI them and then send them a message asking them to get together for coffee with you. They are so open and flexible, that they will do it in a heartbeat.
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    Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
    Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx


    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    you do know that her OP was from four years ago, right? :wink:
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    you do know that her OP was from four years ago, right? :wink:
    I am so so so oblivious to sometimes...my mom can tell you; INFj's unlike Beta NF's have bad bad bad time management sometimes...OUCH
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    Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
    Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx


    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    I am so so so oblivious to sometimes...my mom can tell you; INFj's unlike Beta NF's have bad bad bad time management sometimes...OUCH
    it's okay!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    I am so so so oblivious to sometimes...my mom can tell you; INFj's unlike Beta NF's have bad bad bad time management sometimes...OUCH
    theres a timestamp on her post.
    <Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is and not

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    Quote Originally Posted by thePirate View Post
    theres a timestamp on her post.
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