
Originally Posted by
Jimmers
I posted this in my type me thread, within the Gamma group thread, to avoid derailing the rest of someone else's thread.
Not even a little drop? My, you're direct, which is okay, as I feel I can be direct in response to you're directness.
I do think you are on to something here. Now, I know you mentioned that I was an NF for sure in a prior quote. I can only assume that when you think I am an Fi/Te valuer that you mean either Fi as the base or creative function.I was willing to consider IEI because I thought that I may have been too polite and considerate for an ILI, not because I thought I had strong Fe. It seems that it is quite common for NiFe males to hold back a bit on the Fe, especially Ni dominants. As I relate most strongly to Ni as my base function, it leaves only two types IEI or ILI.
Now looking at the information elements I could say that throughout my life that Fe resembles more of a vulnerable function than a creative function:
In person I never come apart at the seems, even at funerals, where I'm unlikely to burst out in tears. The only time I really show strong emotion is at home around people I'm comfortable with and is often when I become noticeably irritated by certain displays of emotion or being forced to do something that I feel uncomfortable doing. I went to a wedding a couple of weeks ago and became irritated because one of the guests kept insisting that I dance. I didn't pout about it or anything, but it seemed a little much to insist that I dance when I don't want to, besides, I wasn't about to dance to the Footloose or Grease soundtrack.
The bolded is where I am in life right now. Relationships have generally sucked for me and now I'm at a point where I just don't care about all of the disappointments in life. People are who they are and I can sit around and mope about how imperfect they are or hang onto the ways in which they've disappointed me, or I can just accept them for who they are and try to have some sort of relationship with them. Having a few mediocre relationships is better than having none at all, as I've come to see things. I love people quite deeply and have trouble expressing that, but that doesn't mean I don't care. I also prefer to tell the truth over a lie that is comforting to someone, but I try to do it in a manner which is appropriate to the person; sometimes though I am overly blunt to try and get my point across to someone who isn't getting the message. I do tend to end serious emotional discussions with "I'm only trying to be honest" Overall, I think I'm a nice guy that is struggling with some things emotionally.
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I think you're right in assuming that I may value Fi/Te, but if it were so, it would be Te/Fi as opposed to the reverse, and since I value Ni>Fi for sure, that excludes the delta quadra. Essentially, if I am not NiFe, I am NiTe. I have given plenty of evidence for NF and not NT, but that is what you can expect on an internet forum. I'm probably the most productive technician at work and don't need any help in becoming more efficient or productive as the suggestive function of EII suggests because I already am about as efficient as I care to be. My problem seems to be more about caring about the task at hand enough to become engaged. I often feel that much of the work I do can be rather pointless and so if I want to log on to some esoteric internet web site to write some poetry, share some music, or attempt to work through some of my feelings in order to bring some joy in my life, then that is what I'm going to do.
Feel free to respond. I think getting an accurate type requires an adequate amount of dialogue.