Not at all Ann. I respect your sincere opinion but I think you are completely misunderstanding me. Which is okay, I grew up feeling misunderstood [and I'm over that!] so its a real homey comfy feeling.Its how I got interested in MBTI; reading Gifts Differing was so amazing for me, then more books on the topic and workshops. Long before I knew Socionics, which is superior, and my preference now.
You are extremely strongly and personally annoyed at me on this topic bu tI do NOT feel like a victim. (Thats an EII NOT an IEE vulnerability I believe). I believe we are Lookalikes and we tend to sort of blank stare each other in these matters and say, "I don't get you." But not "I don't like you." Usually! Maybe you do the latter. I hope not but I fully respect your free will not to like me. I do like you Ann. I I think you are smart and more importantly an amazing survivor. I really admire that in you and respect it. And you have this great zest and strength and direct honesty down-to-earthness and I admire you.
I look at your list here and think, you don't get me, you misunderstand me. ...
a) I am just one IEE here colored quite differently by experiences others often don't relate to and with at least some values some diss here, Just a regular IEE.
b) Maybe some truth here - not that I refuse to listen but we think so differently that when the explaining gets long I get a headache followign the different line of thinking. Really. And this is probably giving you a headache to read me.
c) Sure errors are there, I am just not getting some of the explanations of the errors, at ALL. Need to understand to have any impact.
d) Probably I do that because I see the interaction between us on this topic is causing duress, and I just want to run. That's all. For me, and I forgot what Renin Dichtonomy this is, but for me and others with this one, a negative conversation has NO WORTH. So I run!
e) Naw. Not superior. More like a bad communicator, a person with not enough something that it takes to be able to follow the points being presented when we get on this topic, and respond without making mad, and then as soon as I make mad I want to run. Not as a victim who has been spanked but as a person of limited tolerance for when the environment around a discussion feels intolerable. I exit.
Sort of like how I hate gory (for no reason) movies. Yes I can watch for a good reason, like Schindlers List or something. Also I hate wretched pornography like what @Jadea16t posted today on some click on thing (don't know why @hkkmr allows this!). Indignity and insult to the great grace and beauty of a woman's naked body is not funny to me and makes me instantly sick to my stomach and I really do want to flee. And the repulse I feel towards one who would post that crap does not go away easily. Its stems from a type of misogyny IMO.
So do you get reactions like that to such things? I think not. And I think its type related. One of the regular posters here, I forgot who, posted a very fascinating analogy story picture that she made up of the different Quadras in relation to a pit. The 3 Quadras were in contact with the pit, all in different ways, one was climbing out of it, for example. And Delta was the only one not touching it - they were standing next to it, with its back to it. Yeah, that is so me, I thought....
So when I flee thats not being a victim, that is taking charge of what feels right or not to me. Turning my back on what makes me feel sick, leaving uncomfortable discussions because I LIKE the people in the discussion and I value that becasue that means more to me than the discussion is being PROACTIVE about my own priorities, in my opinion, not a victim.



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