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    Default Which intertype relation is most conductive to an affair?

    Which intertype relationship would be your pick as the relationship most prone to an affair?

    Now I know there would be a host of circumstances etc etc characters of the people involved rather than type

    but in terms of the intertype relationship alone

    For me I'd say illusionary - you tend to become friendly instantly
    - would have similar interests/have common ground
    - it's said it's easier for you to recognise your hidden agenda being fulfilled
    - you have similar weaknesses which i reckon would make you more likely to trust them

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    Would definitely NOT have an affair with an ILE. LIE, maybe.

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    Dual? Benefit(depending on power dynamic).

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    Identical
    Projection is ordinary. Person A projects at person B, hoping tovalidate something about person A by the response of person B. However, person B, not wanting to be an obejct of someone elses ego and guarding against existential terror constructs a personality which protects his ego and maintain a certain sense of a robust and real self that is different and separate from person A. Sadly, this robust and real self, cut off by defenses of character from the rest of the world, is quite vulnerable and fragile given that it is imaginary and propped up through external feed back. Person B is dimly aware of this and defends against it all the more, even desperately projecting his anxieties back onto person A, with the hope of shoring up his ego with salubrious validation. All of this happens without A or B acknowledging it, of course. Because to face up to it consciously is shocking, in that this is all anybody is doing or can do and it seems absurd when you realize how pathetic it is.

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    how is who you are likely to have an affair with different than who you would generally be attracted to anyway? i guess the trust thing is a factor. i don't really understand how this question should be approached

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    All of my affairs are in order.

    What does this say about my type?

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    Activator, comparative IMO
    ILE "Searcher"
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    Identical

    I love myself

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    Quote Originally Posted by lungs View Post
    how is who you are likely to have an affair with different than who you would generally be attracted to anyway? i guess the trust thing is a factor. i don't really understand how this question should be approached
    Duals find each other boring at first. Mirages hit it off quickly. Semi-Duals burn "hot" for each other. Activators date quickly. Supervisors are mysterious and apparently higher in perceived social status. Benefactors seem to be people you really understand when you don't and can "ask" for something. Conflicts seem attractive at a distance. Superegos are the second most common married relation etc.

    I am not naturally attracted to my duals.

    I really dig Beta extraverts (semi-dual and supervisor) so I can see it possible.
     
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    Quote Originally Posted by Saberstorm View Post
    Duals find each other boring at first. Mirages hit it off quickly. Semi-Duals burn "hot" for each other. Activators date quickly. Supervisors are mysterious and apparently higher in perceived social status. Benefactors seem to be people you really understand when you don't and can "ask" for something. Conflicts seem attractive at a distance. Superegos are the second most common married relation etc.
    super interesting, is there more where this came from.. i.e. contrasting and complementary?

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    It is implicit in the relationship descriptions. What you read is called an insight.
     
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    Identical? Easy to connect with and find things to talk about, easy to trust, definitely not interesting for anything long-term.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Saberstorm View Post
    It is implicit in the relationship descriptions. What you read is called an insight.
    "super-egos are the second most common marriage" is implicit in the descriptions? Where??

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    Ah! That was a different website! I'll try to remember it.
     
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    any type except eii

    benefit
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    Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
    Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?


    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    Quote Originally Posted by Agarina View Post
    Identical? Easy to connect with and find things to talk about, easy to trust, definitely not interesting for anything long-term.
    Yeah. I'd think that makes sense.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Agarina View Post
    Identical? Easy to connect with and find things to talk about, easy to trust, definitely not interesting for anything long-term.
    I could never have an affair with an identical.
    Affair = Semi-duality, Mirage, Extinguishment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa View Post
    any type except eii

    benefit
    I know you've got a thing for SLI's, Martisa. You don't fool me.





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    Quote Originally Posted by StridingStrider View Post
    I know you've got a thing for SLI's, Martisa. You don't fool me.
    I di love SLI
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    Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
    Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?


    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    I would only have an affair with my conflict, super-ego or supervisor... then I can blame them when I'm feeling like a victim later.

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