Hi LSEs,
Right, if an (opposite gender) LSE (irrational subtype, most likely) seems to be
1. in no hurry to end conversations whenever he chats with you (and apparently preferentially so), to the extent of often running late for something else (work-related that sometimes seems that it might have repercussions to miss - some kind of extra work, at any rate), which he might mention but still with no indication of hurry or sometimes even expressing comfort to miss it (this confuses me because he then seems reluctant when i offer the logical thing of ceasing the conversation, in case he was hinting he needs to go - and we'd still oftentimes end up continuing to talk well past the time he mentioned), and
2. if the conversations are very easy and comfortable (bear in mind that I am LII, and people who consider it comfortable to have long chats with me and even regret ending it is a phenomenon of rarity) and includes a high degree of confiding and laughter, and eye contact.
Are these normal in the range of typical friendliness for an LSE, or is it out of the ordinary behavior, even if there is no romantic content in the conversations? I mean, it does not seem to be particularly logical behavior, whereas he is otherwise completely logical. Or does it mean interest, only that since he's delta, he will be taking an interminable length of time to work out whether it is worthwhile to pursue it? Or does it mean something entirely different? What other behaviors are important in the different contexts, if the above two is insufficient to be conclusive? The inconsistency is driving me nuts, being unable to assign an explanation to it, and wondering if I'm supposed to be doing something or not.
Could I also ask upfront, to please refrain from disputing each other's posts so that I can get the perspectives I'm looking for before the thread turns into an argument?![]()


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(as per tcaudilllg)

i do have a kind of sense that i might be behaving differently around him but i would need someone watching to say whether it's flirting. for sure it feels both different from the way i normally interact with other people, yet at the same time feels much more natural (for once) - i notice it mainly because there is the absence of feeling weird or odd, which is an ever-present feeling to some extent or another, otherwise.
it is unusual for me to be able to talk to someone without having to significantly adjust either or all of the following: the topics, the angle/content, the intellectual pitch, the value lens i see them from, and the formality level, to match or create a common 'space' with the other person. hence, it becomes interesting by virtue of being a novel experience. i recognise that in all likelihood this is just unusual for me, and a perfectly normal phenomenon for other people.

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If i dont have some results to show him, he's going to bombard me with emails asking me if i have something to show him yet. (he already does this!). I'd thought he was SLI, maybe Te-SLI, but i wouldn't put LSE past him, now that you mention it. He also often interrupts me mid-sentence which i imagine an SLI probably wouldn't do. I actually hate it when he does that, but I guess that means he's excited...
LSEs!
