@Park, I know you wrote this to Applejacks but I want to comment anyway. I think its great you are trying to figure out for sure if that's her type because understanding type is really helpful.
I do think that she is IEE; I recognize my Identical in her in so many things she has said. She is more social seeking than I am, but it could be because she is younger, plus, importantly she is isolated in a new community. I can think of such times when I was more social-seeking than I am now. She might be Fi subtype instead of Ne subtype, too.
Also working in your house alone for a year would make any E crave company, even the more introverted IEE. I have been isolated in recent weeks trying to take care of many things, but I think its too much isolation, I find myself going a little stir crazy. Plus I have not seen my SLI since Easter.Its just too much.
This behavior would drive my SLI crazy and I would never do this to him. Its so funny that you think Applejacks would do this but I think she wouldn't.
I say its funny because you remind me of my SLI, and of a time a ways back when i wrote him, just being chatty about myself and my day, something about healthy food and asked him a related Q he didn't answer, so I asked again thinking he missed it, since he always answered all my Qs, and either then or after a third ask he finally wrote a succinct little tirade about how he absolutely did NOT want anyone telling him what to eat! How his sister does that, etc. I was so surprised at this passionate response and rushed to assure him that's not why I asked and I would never think of telling him what to eat or not eat; I had too much respect for personal freedom, etc...
But I smiled inwardly, because I was in love with him, and waiting for him to return the sentiment, since I believed he felt the same even though he wasn't saying, and this incident actually gave me encouragement, because it seemed he was weighing in his own mind a future with me, and that's why he freaked out and got so defensive imagining a life with me being like his (not IEE) sister.
Anyway, I bet @applejacks says she doesn't do this, either. We IEEs are freedom loving and totally respect other's freedoms.
Right now my SLI is in the middle of a home remodel we both have a very serious vested interest in and he tells me all the time his progress but I would never think to question the order of the things he does or to hurry him up in anyway. I ask questions all the time like, "What will you work on next when your are done with this?" or, "How long does that take, about?" concerning the next phase. And he knows I just want a ballpark estimate, out of curiosity, and that I have no intention of holding him to anything.
I wish I did not have to ask him on the phone, but I can't be with him now. But when we are together, and married, my role when he does these big projects will be to bring him cool drinks and make meals and organize his tools and pick up the mess that gets left around his perfect work so that it will be nicer to go back to his work, with that intensive concentration he gives it. ...And interrupt him from time to time by arousing him with flirtatious touch when I want to feel connected.
I think its because we know we need to be happy and feel harmonious in our environment in order to be productive. So if we want our partner to be more productive, we know nagging is totally counter-productive. Acceptance, support, a little loving -- that's productive. We know that's what we need, so we give that.



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