Well, the way she said it sounded like GETTING THEM was more important than whether they're genuine, or if they are actually coming from someone she likes and trusts.
Fi valuers are very selective about which sources of information (i.e., people) they trust, so whether positive or negative, personal comments coming from 'just anyone' would have little to no effect on them most of the time. There was a thread started by Expat some time ago about the way different types assess information, and the discussion ended up rendering Fi valuers as unfairly biased and close-minded to the point of appearing prejudiced to some Fe quadra types. For me, the most basic example of this is the way I read forums, scanning through threads to read posts of people I like and who's information I value and trust, while almost completely ignoring posters I despise or dislike for whatever reason. Those are the same people whose comments/opinions/whatever I'd never take to heart or prescribe any meaning to. Same goes for social situations where I'm faced with individuals I barely know, and for those I DO know, I filter information based on my experience and subjective feelings towards them.
Let me put it this way -- If socializing for the sake of exchanging emotions, letting off steam, and influencing others with your emotions is more important to you than developing and maintaining bonds with people on the basis of emotional proximity, trust and loyalty, my bet is that you're not IEE. And I might be getting the wrong vibes here, but my impression is that applejacks tends to emphasize the former.



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