I am reminded of this LSE I was friends with who was telling me about his mom.

Me: so how is your mom doing these days?

Him: she is not well, she has breast cancer and is getting a double mastectomy, so she is experiencing pshycological tramua sorrounding that.

Me: (in my head: well yeeeeeaaaahhhh she is experiencing tramua... And grieving, and prolly angery, and deeply hurt, and worried and apprehensive, and suffering loss, and concerned for her life, and thinking about what it will be for her after her breasts are removed and on and on and dur...I can see he is trying, and doesn't have the right words, but obviously means well and is saddened himself). What I say? Oh brandon, I am so sorry to hear that, this must be very difficult for her...and for you.

Him: yes it is.