Most realistic and/or lasting ("real") relationships happen in the course of other pursuits. That's not to say that dating sites can't be helpful or aren't advisable, but trying to force someone to take a certain path to fulfillment isn't going to end well. You'll end up wishing you hadn't tried to squash someone into a persona or mold that isn't natural for him. Eventually, all people will be themselves, even if only in small ways.