Excellent idea of UDP. Let's do it here too.
- Practice not being in control and then notice that you're fine. You will do things that goes against your believes, but that's fine. (I would elaborate on this if I only knew how to put it.) EDIT: Some day I'll rewrite this with lots of Is followed by a moral.
- Get online. Yes, really. While I've only bumped into a few other INFjs, I have over ten probable INFj friends online. It's good to see others being just as upset and obsessed and with just as weird associations as yourself. They can give me advice on how to deal with things that most other don't even recognize as problems. Plus you'll get tons of new recipes. Look for boards that discuss your hobby or interest and you'll find them. Just watch out for all the meanies.
- When around strangers, try thinking and smile sometimes even if it's annoying, especially in situations like when approaching ESTps in retail. You will be rewarded.