Oh and let me say that Paranoid Se, or Si that is Role, definitely wants to be pursued and opened.

Maybe this has to do with us getting confirmation for our beliefs through Se.

Seeing that we're wanted through Se is the simplest, most natural strategy to perceive this confirmation. There are alternate routes available though, but they aren't modeled anywhere. You can come up with them on your own, or if you're very lucky you can model someone else who has an alternate strategy.