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    I think IEI's are warmer because we are the diplomats,and love to focus on building positive connections with everyone (probably ni leading - good relations will help me in the future...). Whereas EIE's are more about the self-expression (fe leading - let's just make an impact!).

    EIE's are way more extroverted than I am lol! They are always doing sociable things, and seem to be 'friends' with absolutely everyone! One time this duo of best friends - an SLE (whose really popular and extroverted) and an EIE, came banging at my uni/college door, mad drunk.The SLE was raging at the EIE for knowing EVERYONE they walked passed while out at a club together, claiming the EIE should be privileged to be seen out with HIM, and as such was a bad friend haha! This EIE is quite mellow and not the highly talkative extrovert yet even he knew everyone! This to me defines them as the mad extroverts they are ^_^.

    This extensive social networking makes them completely different to me! They are always THE person to know everyone, to chat to everyone, to have friends everywhere. Whereas I like to strike up conversations and make friends, but people definitely have to reach out to me consistently, and as such I only have a good amount of friends because of exposure from living near them or befriending them through some beta extrovert.

    However, from experience, IEI's can be very bouncy and talkative (seemingly extroverted) when they have grown a lot of confidence, though I think it definitely requires putting ourselves out there, and is something that grows over time. Yet we are prone to isolation - which further defines us as an introvert, unlike the EIE. I definitely need people to initiate things with me. In my first year of college/uni, I hit it off with everyone I lived with...yet they didn't really initiate constant hang outs and took my not putting myself out there to mean I didn't want to hang out. I then befriended an LSI girl who straight away started arranging meet ups between me and her gang of friends. I need someone to reach out to me like that, I'll rarely do it! Whereas EIE's REALLY put themselves out there!

    --- I also at times really relate to the bitchy, I don't give a fuck - highly emotionally dominant and expressive edginess that EIE's can have. I think it's a strand in me related to my preppy school days. However, as I got older, I developed a lot of compassion and goodwill for people, and am very adverse to this 'not giving a fuck' self-expression, because I've seen how damaging it can be to your social relationships (and then to your happiness) - and I really avoid it (yay ni ^_^). I still tend to be very opinionated and emotionally edgy at times, but I'll always make sure I smooth it over with love aha. I also think it's really related to confidence...when I am confident I become more like this, and can get 'carried away' in self expression aha. So I suppose I totally empathize with the EIE on that! We don't mean to be insensitive, we can just get fired up and throw our stirring opinions out there! Yet at the same time I'm not bitchy and care massively for people's feelings...but I was quite bitchy in school. So it's kind of hazy with mirrors imo!
    Last edited by dinki; 01-24-2013 at 02:31 PM.
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