Same here. Although (and i hate when that happens) I get carried away by circumstances sometimes and the words just come out without censoring myself at all. This usually happens when i'm in a really odd emotional atmosphere or so. It makes me feel bad afterwards, because it's like I got drunk and then did awful stuff. Except there was no alcohol involved.Originally Posted by Chryssie
Like getting mood-drunk. And having verbal diarhea.
Does that even make sense?
“I want the following word: splendor, splendor is fruit in all its succulence, fruit without sadness. I want vast distances. My savage intuition of myself.”
― Clarice Lispector
This just confuses me more--I'm more SEI-like in easy/good times and more EII-like when there is a good fight to be fought. I've had people tell me I'm SEI, which seems odd since Se-PolR fits me well, but I wanted to check to be sure. I have horrendous ADHD, so my home often looks like a disaster-zone (and I'm told it smells funky) and I'm a very sloppy and slow worker in most fields (I do better in education), though its not from lack of effort.
Regardless, in a hypothetical partner, I'd value somebody who can reign in my chaos and be a steady/consistent force in my life, preferably a good cook who shares my politics.
@shotgunfingers
A good fight to be fought? What is Se PoLR to you?
ive found it can be kind of vague for some people as they do not fully realize the incapacitation on a nonverbal level as well as complete defenseless. It’s just not quite the same as “being really soft and not wanting confrontation” etc as that can take multiple forms in personality.
I suspect PoLR may improve with age, even if slightly. So what I said is probablt
most obvious when you’re young.
Although the words can apply to both types at times, each does tend to lean heavier toward their respective sides:
INFj vs ISFp
perfectionism vs expediency
theorist vs practical
preacher vs acolyte
planned vs seat-of-the-pants
detached vs engaged
objective vs personal
hesitant vs immediate
over the horizon vs clear and present
consequence vs reward
naive vs guarded
idealist vs realist
periodically blind vs tunnel vision
lost in space vs ever aware
deliberate vs ad hoc
image vs physical appearance
selfish vs pleaser
reserved vs impetuous
tomorrow or yesterday vs now
a.k.a. I/O
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Mostly just being really unaware of my physical environment and being very slow at everything. I struggle raising my voice or confronting people directly, but if I feel strongly about a cause, I can become very quiet and stubborn and not cooperate with somebody trying to make me act contrary to my values. I'm also very unorganized and undisciplined.
If I see somebody treating somebody else unfairly, I may not say something in the moment, but I'll later go try to encourage the victim to either find a better situation or else find some kind of leverage over their abuser so they can't be hurt anymore. I'm better at judging relationships between other people than judging my relationships, so I've been abused and exploited before without knowing it--and only found out I was getting treated unfairly when somebody was kind enough to educate me later.
I couldn't yell or scream or attack anybody, not even my worst enemy, unless I'm trapped with them and they abuse me for years on end, in which case, I may defend myself if cornered after receiving physical abuse.
I relate more to the INFj side, honestly, though I also have atrociously awful ADHD and let people down a lot with my personal disorder, slowness, and obliviousness-to-my-surroundings.
Fi vs Si. What is it? Si is discomfort avoidance. Listening to your body. It looks random.
Fi is understanding others through their relations with each other. It does not look random.
Good? That work?
TI is your EII/IEE example. He's probably not Si/Fe, as Si/Fe is likely to be more pushy, but also get angry at pushy people (ignoring Se). Fun how that works right?
TI has role Se.
Role Se:
He resents any attempts to "push" him to do things and rejects the idea of people pressuring each other to do things. He himself avoids the use of pressure, preferring instead to entice and inspire. Only severe irritation can make him become forceful and demanding for brief periods of time until he calms down.
I have suggestive Se. I'm likely to do nothing until someone pushes me off a cliff, in which point, I will act.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phrenology
An optimist - does not get discouraged under any circumstances. Life upheavals and stressful events only toughen him and make more confident. He likes to laugh and entertain people. Enters contact with someone by involving him with a humorous remark. His humor is often sly and contain hints and double meanings. Easily enters into arguments and bets, especially if he is challenged. When arguing his points is often ironic, ridicules the views of his opponent. His irritability and hot temper may be unpleasant to others. However, he himself is not perceptive of this and believes that he is simply exchanging opinions.
http://www.wikisocion.net/en/index.php?title=LIE_Profile_by_Gulenko
SEI is called "The Mediator" because they know how to gather very different, and even opposing people together all in one place, except they will separate the ones who they know aren't good with each other to make sure they don't run into each other, despite being in the same room. They utilize Fi for the purposes of supporting Fe which is to have everyone get along and have a good time so the emotional environment doesn't get ruined. They're merry and democratic. They want all sorts of people to mix together. They also have Control Se which means under a stressful situation, they'll get really aggressive and amp up their anger with a person because that person might have done or said something to make them lose their Si comfort zone.
EII would not gather a bunch of people together, esp. those whom they know will not get along together, unless it's absolutely mandatory/necessary. They have Control Fe which means they'll utilize Fe when in stressful situation to bring people together since they're PoLR Se and don't want to use force to get people to cooperate. Delta is serious and aristocratic Quadra which means that Fi is utilized to the context of keeping it all in the family, very close knit associations.
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