Hey man, I like your responses and my best guess as to your type would be ILI. The most obvious strength you have according to your self description is introverted intuition. Ni has been linked to imagination, ideology, 'time' (as in a subjective sense of the evolution of people, places, and things in time), as well as a sense of 'just knowing' and the ability to piece things together beyond the sum of its parts. This all seems exemplified very well in your responses and way of seeing things. I can also see weak sensing (ex. weak Se - Basically, I never have been (nor will I ever be) somebody who is comfortable marching up to another individual and demanding things), and you mentioned identifying with weak Si so we can put you in as an intuitive, most likely Ni valuing/ego, which puts you at either Beta or Gamma. You don't seem to be motivated by outside stimulus predominantly, and have a preference for inaction. I would put you as IP temperment. If you were to be of another temperament, I find it doubtful it would be EJ as this seems to be the antithetical to your natural way of being. This would then come down to IEI or ILI - I find it difficult to see any sort of Fe valuing in yours posts, but I do see examples of de-valuing/not being adept at it it (ex. I just don’t show it because… meh, emotions./ I am not comfortable with emotions or the displaying of them). Fe is generally has to do with an objects emotional sphere and being ambivalent about that as well as uncomfortable with its expression strikes me as being odd for an Fe ego - they should be particularly adept and interested in influencing emotional spheres.

I think some people might type you as an Fe ego because of your description of being a good mediator of people/moods, but for those that aren't aware, mood falls into the realm of Ni and is different then an emotion - the description itself lends to describe someone adept at mood management but not emotional which could very well fit Te PoLR. There's also other general stuff about people seeing you as being cold and distant, you generally being a calm person, specifying that you were spiritual and not religious, the things you like to talk about, as well as the overall tone in your post that strike me as logical over ethical as well as fitting ILI. The use of Fi is has a 'heavier' quality to it here that gives me a sense that is a valued function as it is peppered through your posts in a way that I have seen from other Gamma NT's but not from Beta NF's.

(Sidenote: Te is external dynamics of objects, its been linked to things such as effectiveness, productivity, and efficiency, usefulness, all things you seem to have an awareness of. One thing that shows me this is that in that car example, you seemed to focus on what to do in these terms vs 'using' or directing the people's heightened emotions somewhere which to me could indicate a preference for it. You also filtered out your self-description in terms of what would be useful for typing, as well as conveying confidence in knowing what to do when someone is stressed out which all potentially indicate Te>Fe)

Hopefully that helps at all, if it doesn't here are some other links that I have found useful:
http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...gustinaviciute

(Illustrates differences between E/I, N/S, T/F, J/P)

http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...Dmitry-Golihov

(Illustrates differences of IE's in different functional spots)

http://www.socionics.us/works/gulenk...cenarios.shtml

(Communication styles)

Long Type Descriptions (A little tough to read given the rough translations, but informative)
http://wikisocion.org/en/index.php?t...atievskaya_IEI
http://wikisocion.org/en/index.php?t...atievskaya_EIE
http://wikisocion.org/en/index.php?t...atievskaya_ILI

As far as enneagram goes, there is a degree of correlation between that and socionics and would be very interested in knowing how you feel you fit 5. I have found that 3's are typically EIE-Fe, while the EIE-Ni's seem to fall into 4 or 6. IEI's also typically fit 4. 5's are usually ILI's or LII's. That's about all I got for now.