Big thing that stuck in my mind @fenryrr is when you blew up on @lungs about her tumblr being full of graphic ripping death without any semblance of beauty, and I quickly drew parallels between that and how, though we're both into lots of what'll fall under the death metal umbrella, you'll gravitate towards stuff like this or this, whereas I'll head for stuff like this or this. Then came to mind was that huge Enneagram stacking thing @siuntal linked, that, in addition to having sp/sx having a more earthy and deathy vibe than most any other stacking, and by consequence sp/so, there was this in particular:

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sp/sx also has an inverted narcissism (perhaps distorted exhibitionism is more accurate). There's an impulse to open the raincoat and reveal cancerous lesions covering the torso and genitalia. Festering wounds with a stench. It sometimes seems to be a challenge issued around deep, deep bonding: This is me; How real are you willing to be? Psychic nudity/revelation that, in itself, threatens the sp/sx with self-destruction....or at least social self-destruction, which is part of the distilling process toward the one-to-one uber-bond. There's an element of all that with sx in general but sp/sx, in this mode, prefers it truly organically grotesque, leaving a stain and a scar that's hard to interpret.

sp/sx has a self-undermining undertow current. That slow slurping sucking sound in the basement. Curls them into themselves, and actually away from outer resources (soc-world). The lack of air makes the pool stagnant; it festers, expands/ferments, gets hotter and hotter.
You come off pretty removed from this, and the discordance you noticed between you and @k0rpsy and you and @Radio feels like it could be largely covered under the whole stacking differences thing, with them as so last, and you as totally not so last. The whole directness versus diplomacy, heaviness versus airiness, all that good stuff. I gotta go pass out for a few hours now, hope this turned out usable...