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    Default INFp, do you get jealous?

    Like if you're partner or person of interest is with others and not you, do you get jealous? And of what exactly? Like flirting? Physical contact? Emotional connection? Also, do you care if you're ignored or not?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Leader View Post
    Like if you're partner or person of interest is with others and not you, do you get jealous? And of what exactly? Like flirting? Physical contact? Emotional connection? Also, do you care if you're ignored or not?
    I'm curious to hear what INFps will say, but I'll throw in my 2cents.

    My current understanding is that INFps are not really jealous of physical contact. In that, they can be very understanding lovers. However, they have an uncanny understanding of emotional connections, and are insanely perceptive.

    If an INFp suspects you are becoming closer with another girl, let the mind games begin! They don't seem to care so much that you can get closer with someone else, Fi-devaluing, but will find ways to draw your attention, lure you back in. INFps especially like to be seen as prizes, trophies, to be pursued, very much Ni-Victim lovestyle. They seem to view it as a 'game' or 'battle' to win their lover back, taking pride in ultimately being seen as more rewarding to pursue. Yes, they can be very hurt if they are ignored.

    Generally INFps don't go out of their way to get their loved one back. They'll play cool, and be loyal to their principles, and test the person they love... see how they respond. Ultimately, if they choose someone else, then they decide he wasn't going to be loyal anyway. But, if he decides to come back and pursue the INFp, then it was all fair game, and the INFp doesn't feel like they had to manipulate anything.

    They'll play mind games to tempt their loved ones to come back. So when they do, attracting the Se-egos, the Aggressors can feel in control, knowing ultimately it was THEIR choice to come back. After all, they chose to come back... it couldn't have been under the influence of the INFp playing mind games... or could it?


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    i can get jealous but not to the point where i'll do something stupid. there was this LSI that i liked and he was dating an IEE. i heard rumors about how on and off they were and how clinging she was, that made me feel better knowing that their relationship wasn't perfect. but most of the time i was like, you know if he's dating her, he must care about her and she probably cares about him too, so leave it alone. they did break up but he went to boot camp

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    I do get jealous. For example.. my military boyfriend had a female co-worker who would post stuff on his facebook and they'd laugh about things together. My initial reaction would be "Who the hell is this bitch?!" but I wouldn't be jealous enough to actually tell my boyfriend about the way I feel unless its actual cheating. I always tell myself that i'm over reacting and if I know for sure he loves me, whatever they do with another girl as a joke or whatever is totally fine. Or i'll think something mean like "She's in the military with him, and ugly, and practically a man.. He couldn't be interested in her!" I'll rationalize with anything I can. Especially since I do similar things with my male friends. (I still keep it in the back of my mind as a potential threat)


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    Ascended beings don't get jealous.

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    I try not to let jealousy get the best of me, and internalize on it. I am aware that envy can cause a lot of damage if acted on. But when it comes to a special person, I tend to overthink things if they bring up other girls, and jealousy kicks in. My lack of experience with relationships just causes insecurity and fuels the flames in situations like that, then I have trouble letting go.

    I also get pangs of envy if someone is just as good at or better than me when it comes to an area that I excel at. I mean, it is an area for us to connect with as friends but that's just my kneejerk reaction. It stems from a place of insecurity if anything. The world of social media makes it easier for those things to come into our conscious and prior to that, the world was a much different place.
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    Seems to depend on my mood a lot

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    When iei boyfriend and I first started dating and I asked if we were exclusive he was like, "I don't own you, do what you want." Which I took as a no. But really, i came to find out, he wanted it to be a yes but of my own initiative. He wanted me to avoid dating others not of his decree but of my own initiative, so he wouldn't say so. But he found out about a canceled date on my schedule and was irked but saw it as my choice without his order. That's what he be like.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ashlesha View Post
    When iei boyfriend and I first started dating and I asked if we were exclusive he was like, "I don't own you, do what you want." Which I took as a no. But really, i came to find out, he wanted it to be a yes but of my own initiative. He wanted me to avoid dating others not of his decree but of my own initiative, so he wouldn't say so. But he found out about a canceled date on my schedule and was irked but saw it as my choice without his order. That's what he be like.
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    The IEIs I’ve dealt with have all been jealous individuals lol.

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    I'd be a bit disappointed if the person I like and were close to had to be so permissive like "it's up to you, we don't own each others", yet that's what I got in my last relationship and I guess it's said to make me take the action first.. I know they care and it's really a sound argument because of the real impossibilities that forbid us to be together, yet I guess that if one of us was more forthcoming about the whole thing things would be more easier and we wouldn't live in a constant uncertainty that a breath of air let us fly away, and I guess we're all too scared to admit how much we want what we want that the impossibilities can create all of situations... btw, I guess no one's not jealous, if they seem so they're probably faking it, or they just don't care

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    Quote Originally Posted by ooo View Post
    I'd be a bit disappointed if the person I like and were close to had to be so permissive like "it's up to you, we don't own each others", yet that's what I got in my last relationship and I guess it's said to make me take the action first.. I know they care and it's really a sound argument because of the real impossibilities that forbid us to be together, yet I guess that if one of us was more forthcoming about the whole thing things would be more easier and we wouldn't live in a constant uncertainty that a breath of air let us fly away, and I guess we're all too scared to admit how much we want what we want that the impossibilities can create all of situations... btw, I guess no one's not jealous, if they seem so they're probably faking it, or they just don't care
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    an ILE ex of mine was always repeating me of that ç__ç

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    Repeating or reminding?
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    Quote Originally Posted by ooo View Post
    I'd be a bit disappointed if the person I like and were close to had to be so permissive like "it's up to you, we don't own each others", yet that's what I got in my last relationship and I guess it's said to make me take the action first.. I know they care and it's really a sound argument because of the real impossibilities that forbid us to be together, yet I guess that if one of us was more forthcoming about the whole thing things would be more easier and we wouldn't live in a constant uncertainty that a breath of air let us fly away, and I guess we're all too scared to admit how much we want what we want that the impossibilities can create all of situations... btw, I guess no one's not jealous, if they seem so they're probably faking it, or they just don't care
    Yeah, that almost always means you're in trouble if you do what you want and it isn't what they want. I have said it as a way to test the relationship. :/

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    Everybody gets jealous, what kind of bullshit question is that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fresh meat View Post
    Everybody gets jealous, what kind of bullshit question is that.
    Bruh this thread is 7 years old

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    Yes, I do. I'm also sx 4 undoubtedly so.
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    not really no. It's more like sadness and emptiness than jealousy.

    I skip the jealousy and go right to "goodbye"

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