Do me hard (or soft), but seriously, do me

[Beautiful sky]

Pictures, in any variety does not indicate type; if you post a picture of you in a goofy pose or style, that is not type related; everyone has fun, everyone has moments of "weirdness" and everyone shows ones side of themselves or another; what is type is typical behavior. So if you post a picture of you looking like you want others to laugh or think of you as a silly person and you're typically not one, people, especially ones who can't see past a pose, are just going to assume one way and not look past that and ask the real questions that determine type.

[golden]

I do not believe any of this. I amass lots of knowledge and I am not a Te type. I never see ESTjs learning. They are robotic and they dislike the fun atmosphere that professors and teachers and writers try to create around the process of learning. They want the robotic aspect of procedure without a big picture. That is not knowledge. They are utilitarian; they lack true and earnest curiosity. I never see ESTjs buying gifts. They only seek their personal advantage. They have weak Fi. That means that they are assholes. They look to date ugly women so that their weak Fi does not ruin everything. An ugly woman has no other choice but to date an asshole. They give no presents. They seek the vulnerable to exploit and control. I do not think you know ESTjs. They are control freaks.

He is too witty not to value the sense of fun wit provokes. That is a merry type. I think he has Ni. He sees the forest and the trees.

This is classic, I think I may use part of it for my sig.

[Creepy-Snaps]

Snaps, you are the worst kind of asshole. You're the asshole who tries to pretend he's looking out for someone else's interests. The asshole who paints a big smile on and fake cheerfulness and thinks that gives him some kind of free pass. Over and over you sit in judgement of other people and their lives, thinking you can dictate how anyone else should live, not realizing that you don't have the first clue about people or their lives. You never stop to consider that your narrow viewpoint just might not be seeing the whole picture. Are you really fooling yourself into thinking you're a "nice guy" by being superficially agreeable and over-the-top friendly? Because, you're not fooling anyone afaik. Your hyper happy puppy act is a thin veneer for the harsh and bitter criticism you harbor beneath it. Smearing gobs of honey on your personal attacks doesn't make them any more palatable or any more true, it merely helps you lie to yourself that you actually care about anyone.

I'm afraid you are one who misinterpreted my message.

I sincerely hope you interpret this post the right way, and realize I'm pointing some of these things out with the hopes of helping you, not for vengeful attacking pleasure.

To answer your question, squark, no, I don't think being overly friendly gives me a free pass at all. And no, I am not an "asshole".

I still feel my message was one that Maritsa needed to hear. However, I will think more about what you said about judging people.

[fen]

Eh, I don't think Snaps is saying these things with the intention of hurting Maritsa.
Many of the things he has suggested are things that are true, and things that many other members have said to Maritsa.
His demeanor in his explanations are somewhat detached and formal, but I don't think that qualifies him as an asshole.
I think he's trying to present what he wants to say in a way that is less attacking.

[Absurd]

Many of the things he has suggested are things that are true, and things that many other members have said to Maritsa.

Only JWC3 can say one is a douchebag/asshole. Agree. And that doesn't make him worse than one calling the other sociopath.

[squark]

Eh, I don't think Snaps is saying these things with the intention of hurting Maritsa.
Many of the things he has suggested are things that are true, and things that many other members have said to Maritsa.
His demeanor in his explanations are somewhat detached and formal, but I don't think that qualifies him as an asshole.
I think he's trying to present what he wants to say in a way that is less attacking.

Fen, what I wrote about him wasn't in response just to what he said to Maritsa. It's something I already thought, and happened to express at this time, with this example. People will express who they are, they'll tell you their thoughts, their judgements and their values, and it's something quite separate from whatever facade they put up. What I said has nothing to do with him being "detached and formal" or anything else that you read into it. It has to do with the manner in which he actually thinks, with arrogance, close-mindedness and the notion that he can dictate to others how they ought to live, with an unfounded sense of superiority over others who he wants to "help" <read control/dictate/direct. That's what makes him an asshole. Not the manner in which he speaks, not the specific words that he says. Telling someone your own views, or what you think about them, in whatever manner you choose to do so is something very different from telling someone how they ought to be, or ought to think, and trying to redirect them in that direction. Throwing a lighthearted facade over top of it, and trying to sweeten it up with disclaimers and nicey nicey language doesn't change what's beneath it.

[Creepy-pokeball]

Back to Jadae's type. Hi Jadae. What do you think most people miss about you that might be relevant to type?

Internal qualities. In other words, what I actually think or feel that I assume is obvious, yet it is only occasionally picked up on.

[thePirate]

jadaaaaaaaaaaeee

[Creepy-pokeball]

Piiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiiiiiiiiiii eyeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee lol

[Beautiful sky]

I'm afraid you are one who misinterpreted my message.



To answer your question, squark, no, I don't think being overly friendly gives me a free pass at all. And no, I am not an "asshole".

I still feel my message was one that Maritsa needed to hear. However, I will think more about what you said about judging people.

No, it's one that hurts me and it doesn't help me solve my problems.
I don't think you realize that I can date anyone I want and the fact is that a lot of women can date a lot of men and get into a lot of relationships. I'm just being very picky which only means that what I want, I have to be very patient for. That's all. I want to be with a dual and it's a matter of time before I find one who is compatible with me in many ways and the fact is that I'm not rushing. I'm not looking at my life and situation as this failure, which you are interpreting it as. Yes, I get emotional and tired and very curious as to why things don't happen already, but that's because I'm not picking up the next guy who asks me out. At the same time, my life is VERY fulfilling for me. I have already raised a ton of kids so if it happens for me, that will be great, but if it doesn't, I don't feel like I HAD to have kids. I have my kids....they're still MY kids, even though I didn't make them. I still say this, you don't have to birth them to mother them.

[Gilly]

Internal qualities. In other words, what I actually think or feel that I assume is obvious, yet it is only occasionally picked up on.

Lol what kind of evasive bullshit is this? And that was actually a good question

[Creepy-pokeball]

Lol what kind of evasive bullshit is this? And that was actually a good question

I wasnt being evasive.

[Gilly]

I wasnt being evasive.

Well your answer was kind of...vague

[Creepy-pokeball]

Well your answer was kind of...vague

It was accurate, but I am not going to give out answers from personal context, if that is the implication.

[Olduvai]

Creepy-pokeball is ILE methinks