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Serious Left-Static Negativist
Well here are my thoughts on Anndelise’s type. I hope the delay did not give anyone the idea this is anything profound I am composing. I just have been tied up with other things.
Anndelise a T type? I had no such thoughts! She is a dear people-person. (But no offense to Ts! And I am in love with a T.)
Anndelise, hear me out while I drop this blow – I think its SEE. Yes, its true, wretched Marista [just teasing, Marista] has laid out an extensive and infuriating argument for this for you. I have not followed the argument (lightly skimmed some places only) -- I just am not as schooled as she is, and I don’t know you well or long, so I am ill-equipped to judge it. But it may well be true that her decision that you are a SEE could have influenced my thought that you are that. But my reasons are my own, so let me tell you, and as I have said, I am not married to this idea, I do not mind being told you don’t see it that way at all. I am interested in your genuine reaction to these thoughts.
Its just that you remind me of SEEs I know - Cherie who cares for my mother when I take time away from her. Also of Becca, my SLI-love’s adult daughter, and Angie, an acquaintance-friend from college days - all SEEs. [All these names are made up.] When I read what you write, I am reminded of these.
Because when I see a puzzling response, or a different response than I might expect from a person, my mind searches to understand why a person is behaving that way, and I make conncections to people I already know. And its rather an intuitive connection, but I feel quite sure of it, and I think I am pretty strong with that intuitive thing, because I think in this case I am using my very strongest function. (but I am not infallible!) And with you, my mind keeps going to Cherie, who helps me understand Becca, and knowing them helps me understand my old friend back when, Angie. It seems to me as if my mind involuntarily goes to Cherie when I am trying to understand you!
Furthermore, my mind goes somewhere else when you are in conflict with Marista. You have written long posts when you are in conflict with her, and I read them and can feel your angst. And that angst is so familiar! I can feel it (that’s why I told you: I believe you are genuine) and it reminds me of a very angst I only know too well. The angst and the irritation and impatience you feel with Marista is exactly like what I have to deal with with my mother. Its how I easily feel towards her. I’m not proud. I can’t help it! And my mother is my Supervisee. And if you are SEE, then Marista is your Supervisee. No wonder I know just how you feel!
It’s the overall feeling I get from the way you write. That frustration, that “how can anyone even think that way??” kind of annoyance – that’s what I feel with my mother too often! (I have to hold it in! I want to be kind!).
My Supervisor-style annoyance with my mother is very close to the surface lately as I am trying to come to grips with it. She lives with me, I care for her, and I am all she has, and I was horrified to realize I am her Supervisor, at a time I feel such righteous indignation towards my SLI-love’s ex-wife, who was his supervisor, and their marriage, with him as Supervisee, was truly what they say for him: dangerous and deleterious.
And this is the sad position my mother sits in with me!
Let me tell you a little aobut Cheri, Becca, Angie and what they all have in common. A gorgeous thick head of hair, all three of them, just like you (I saw your “haircut” pics on your blog) and also like you, nice eyes, nice womanly features and figure, feminine faces of fuller features and by full I do not mean fat. All three are attractive of face and figure. All three are openly friendly, approachable, and easy to be around, and will speak to anyone, and love a social situation. They are all active, moving about a lot. They all speak their mind very assertively, but as assertive and surprising and strong as their opinion may be, they are not trying to push you; they are just being themselves.
Cherie approaches her work in a random sort of way, sort of like you. In fact, at first, I can make no rhyme nor reason of it. But then on closer examination I can see she has a plan, goals, priorities and is moving in the direction she wants to go. She is not one to get overly caught up in just-so details like I can. I see these things in you in your approach to work.
As to above, this is written aobut SEE’s use of Se, and it sounds like what you said of yuour garden goals (the bolded part):
“As a lifestyle matter, SEEs are often oriented towards productive activity; they can be often impatient with abstract explanations or ideas, and they usually prefer tangible accounts of worldly affairs, and information that they can use and apply. They may prefer to work in real-world contexts or on projects that are subject to their influence, as opposed to trying to effectuate overly intangible ideas.”
Next I am going to comment on your earlier post here. But I first have to take my Mom for a walk. I will be kind and pleasant... I will be kind and pleasant...
Last edited by Eliza Thomason; 08-10-2012 at 12:34 AM.
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