Quote Originally Posted by Eliza Thomason View Post
I respect INFJs for the ability to know and name their own feelings so instantly. For me, its different. Something happens, and all I know is I feel bad/uncomfortable, and I can't name what has thrown off my equilibrium. So I don't address it - I will almost never say I am offended at the time I am offended - I need to be alone and think it out awhile before I can uncover what it is that hurt or offended me. Then I usually work it out with myself alone! Only if I feel it wil benefit the other person personally (personal growth) or my relationship with that person will I let them know what they did that offended me. But usually I let it go. Or I decide, "Next time, if they say something similar, I will say __"
I'm the same way...as you may have observed about how I stated my feelings about how I feel about Ann and you.