Quote Originally Posted by anndelise View Post
I have requested a split so that the Delta Lounge may return to being a place of relaxation and enjoyment. But I was not aware of your post at the time I made the request. When the split occurs, if these two posts are not part of it, then please repost to the new thread, and delete it from this thread. Thank you.
Well post here if there is a split thread, or if you are going with the blog post you opened, so I know where to write. At any rate, I read the pages 91-92 and 97. Thanks for the background! Wow, that you and Marista wrote so kind to each other, then, and that just makes it even sadder that there is strife now.

The pg.97 strife between Minde and Marista - that was the first I saw of it and I cannot guess where that is rooted from. And they have the same types! Whatever for that strife, as, I have no idea the history of Minde and Marista. And I am P, it would take a lot more info for me to make a judgment so I just won't on that...(and I am not asking for more info! Too much to think about right now)

Although, as to that, I will say, both my INTJ friends do in fact rise up in sharp offense at times. One in particularly the one I wrote of here just now who is from out-of-town, and most often her offense is at misunderstanding something I said; I had meant no offense, but offense was taken, severely. But we both talk it out. Its hard if I want to be understood better in these situations, because sometimes its a sticking point where she can't understand me, and I just explain myself best I can and let it go. These are not serious or frequent. Very rare in a relationship that is primarily harmony and good will.

I respect my INFJ friend for being so instantly in touch of her feelings that she can even react so sharply and fast. My other INFJ freind, close, who lives near me, does the same thing but the vast majority of the time she is offended by others, like her Conflictor husband. Rarely me, and if she does not like something I say or its not accurate, she lets me know quickly and clearly, but its very rare for all the time we talk.

I respect INFJs for the ability to know and name their own feelings so instantly. For me, its different. Something happens, and all I know is I feel bad/uncomfortable, and I can't name what has thrown off my equilibrium. So I don't address it - I will almost never say I am offended at the time I am offended - I need to be alone and think it out awhile before I can uncover what it is that hurt or offended me. Then I usually work it out with myself alone! Only if I feel it wil benefit the other person personally (personal growth) or my relationship with that person will I let them know what they did that offended me. But usually I let it go. Or I decide, "Next time, if they say something similar, I will say __"

So, knowing my INFJ freinds well, that two INFJs would have sharp hurt-feeling reactions with each other and speak their minds about it to each other is not so unusual. Between two ENFPs, such an interaction would be much, much more unusual I'd say.

More things you wrote confirmed my little type theory on you. Its not really a theory - just impressions I have gathered that could be a wrong conclusion. However to type it out this must wait till another time. I am up way, way too late. I need to be up early...but I will get back to this, if not tomorrow then the next day.